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Offline Baby Ethan

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sh/pat and crying
« on: February 19, 2007, 22:05:01 pm »
Just a general question to those who have successfully used sh/pat to teach their young LO's independent sleep.
When you were doing it, was your LO crying and you just continued until she/he eventually fell asleep or do they fall asleep quietly?

I initially tried pat/sh with my LO but she would cry until i introduced the pacifier, now all i have to do to get her to sleep is lay her in her moses basket with her paci and then put a corner of a rolled up blanket against her face and she rubs her eyes against it and falls asleep with no crying however i know that if i had to get rid of the paci then the crying would start. She's 11 weeks and a very sucky baby but i would love to teach her independent sleep without the paci but i guess i'm just trying to avoid any crying.

Should i just be prepared for crying and pat/sh through it?
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Re: sh/pat and crying
« Reply #1 on: February 20, 2007, 01:13:29 am »
Just an idea

Perhaps you can start the sshh/patting, wait until she is calm before removing the paci keep the sshh/patting and then eventually shifted so that you remove it earlier and earlier (as in less drowsy)??.




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Re: sh/pat and crying
« Reply #2 on: February 20, 2007, 14:07:12 pm »
My little one was a paci addict, it drove me nuts!!! LOL  I allowed her to keep it until 3 months, after that she began to spit it out during her sleep and would wake up when she realized she didn't have it, and cry (vicious cycle). VERY DEPENDANT on it, i decided i had to give it a try and teach her how to fall asleep on her own using shh/pat, she cried but it worked. Now we don't' need it - your LO is pretty young, suckling reflex is very strong now - to young to find her fingers yet. The older she gets the harder it will be to get rid of the paci, it's really up to you. You can teach her now or wait a bit if it's not a big deal for you to deal with shh/pat & crying later...I think it's after four months that habits really begin to be burrowed. Well no matter what, crying is going to be involved - just comfort her. Good luck....
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Re: sh/pat and crying
« Reply #3 on: February 21, 2007, 05:22:20 am »
hi, I had to reply to this post as I have been looking for something kind-of-similar. My problem is that my 3 week old cries so much while I am doing shush/pat, it breaks my heart. I would love to have a bubby that just rubs her face and goes to sleep! Settling is taking 20-30 minutes each time, and I just need someone to tell me its going to get easier and that I'm not hurting her by her crying? I put my face right down on her shoulder while I'm patting/shushing, so its almost like I'm holding her, it just hurts to hear her so upset.
REASSURANCE PLEASE??!! I'M HURTING!!
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Re: sh/pat and crying
« Reply #4 on: February 21, 2007, 13:22:23 pm »
Laura, it gets better. Give her time, 3 weeks is really young.
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