I feel like I am going to collapse from sheer exhaustion and I have no idea if I am doing this right. Our DS has never been on a schedule (although I did try to get him to sleep when he showed sleepy signs, around 2 hours recently), co-slept since birth, and was breastfed to sleep. Co-sleeping is not working for anyone anymore. No one gets sleep, including DS. So, I turned to BW Solves All Your Problems after recommendations from friends. We started the process on Monday, so today is Day 6 and I am not sure if we are following everything correctly or doing things the "right" way. He has definitely had a little improvement in nighttime sleep, but not much. The first night, he was waking every 5 - 50 minutes and would be up for 30-60 minutes, crying, fussing, etc. We did pu/pd and put our hand on him to comfort him. We said "night night time" and " you are just trying to sleep," etc. The second night, he would still wake up as often, but it was only taking 5 - 10 minutes to get him back to sleep. He has woken up this often for the past two months, so long before we started "baby boot camp," as I call it. He obviously needs help transitioning into the next sleep phase, but does that mean we have to be up every 30 minutes throughout the night to do WTS? He has gotten a couple 2-3 hour stretches in the past couple of nights, so I know he can do it and is learning, but it is so overwhelming and exhausting. I do have help from my DH, but we are both walking zombies at this point. Am I expecting too much too soon? He does use a pacifier, but can put it in his mouth by himself just fine. I am wondering though if he can't see it at night to put it back in his mouth, thus it has become a prop. His naps are terrible too - anywhere from 30-40 minutes. Here is our routine:
5:30-6:30am wakes on his own and won't go back to sleep
7 nurse
8 breakfast
8:45 nap routine
9 nap - falls asleep relatively easy
9:30-9:45 wakes
9:45-11 pu/pd or soothe, sometimes falls back asleep for 20-30 minutes
11 nurse
12 lunch
12:40 nap routine
1:00 nap - falls asleep relatively easy
1:30-1:45 wakes
1:45-3:00 pu/pd or soothe, sometimes falls back asleep for 20-30 minutes
3 nurse
5 dinner
5:45 bath
6:00 nurse
6:30 bedtime
And then the numerous nightwaking occur (sometimes as much as 25, but usually 12-15 times). I know that Tracy says to be very strict the first two weeks, so I have been following the schedule she lays out in her book, except for nursing. I am not comfortable giving up all the nursing, so I add some in there for him and I am okay with that. We are at about 3 hours in between some feeds and that is an improvement from 1 1/2 hours. Are we supposed to stay in his room completely until he falls asleep right now and then back out later? Isn't that possibly going to be a prop then? Do we go in at any cry (mantra or more extrmeme)? Let him try to settle without breaking the trust bond? I just need help in understanding where we need to tweak our EASY and what we need to do differently. If I need to add anything, let me know. TIA! Joy