Hun nobody's forcing you to try anything you're uncomfortable with. Even if it feels like you don't, you do know her best and we're all just making suggestions based on what we can see on paper and our own experience. If you can think of something else to try by all means do
. We'll be here to hold hands.
I do agree with kaipooi that trying to analyse just one day isn't really worthwhile though - of course she'll be grumpier after a short night or a short nap. But sometimes you have to go there first to make the change that LO needs. So just as an example, say a 6 month old is still on a 'standard' 4h EASY but is EW at 5am. What would you suggest to do? You'd say to push A times and work towards dropping the catnap. In the short term LO would likely get really tired and grumpy, probably short nap and have some NWs. But the end goal would be two proper naps and a night returned to a good length. Does that kind of make sense?
The other thing (I'm sure I've said it before) is try not to be too scared of OT. I know that's hard
. But there's only so far it can get you know? It's not like she's sleeping well at the moment and you're worried about messing it up? I mean, if you've already got NWs and EWs what is there to lose?
Have you ever considered at least fixing BT, even if you stick with A time to nap? I know you said you feel that you've been chasing the elusive pm A time for forever - radical thought but perhaps there isn't one? BT here is always 6.30-7pm, and it's a rare occasion now that we have too much messing regardless of nap or not.
I'm saying all this with total sympathy and wishing I could fix it. Honestly I don't have the worlds best sleeper at the moment either, we are deep into nap-dropping and yesterday had a 13h NND after 4 previous NNDs
. Not your problem though! Just wanted to say I do share the frustration but I know eventually it will settle down.
(((Hugs))) for today x