Hello! Yes the first A time is a little short. I have a 12 week old on 1;15/1.5 A time... All are different and A times can vary but try adding a few mins consistently for the next few days to that morning nap. See if it helps any, as scottishmummy suggested!
Keep in mind, A time is eyes open, to eyes closed. If you are shooting for maybe a 1:15 A time instead of 1hr... Head to his room 15-20 mins prior. That sounds like a great wind down. Mine is about the same! Your on the right track. Remember, it takes weeks to teach baby new methods. Just stay consistent and hopefully you'll see some changes soon! Hang in there! I know I am
HUGS!
As far as the shh/pat method.. It can be adjusted to your LOs needs. that's what BW is all about. Getting to know baby and be in tune with his/her needs. Shh pat was too stimulating for my LO as well.... Patting wasn't for him and shhing got me too tired (personally) ...so I use a white noise app on my phone, (similar to shhhhh noises) and I patted his bottom instead while holding him in a cradle position. Also, caressing his head works well too!
I would consider trying another method aside PUPD as it can be too OS for him and also, it is best used as last resort/older babies once routine looks good and has been adjusted, yk?
It's very tough, for sure. But you will get through this!
He is BF correct? You mentioned you feed anytime he gets fussy, however keep in mind that fussiness isn't just a sign of hunger. It could be a number of things. You mentioned he doesn't have hunger cues? Following a good Eat Activity Sleep routine can help you figure out what's next. Could it be possible he is just a "snacker" and isn't getting full meals at a time? Something to consider?
How are his moods through the day? Is he constantly fussy? How about tummy troubles? Reflux?
Hugs!!!