Hi! thank you dear ladies for help and support and suggestions!
weaver & domestic engineer - I had the same thought about reflux and yesterday went to see the pediatrician and we now have an increased dose of omeprazole, in about 5 days if there is no improvement she suggested we try a special formula and if that does not help she said we will have to go to hospital and be under observation for several days and night to see how he acts. We'll see.
Liz - I am using Nestle's BEBA Optipro 1 (we live in Switzerland and this is the basic one from Nestle), I started with BEBA Comfortis which is for babies with sensitive tummies (it contains some kind of probiotics), but then switched to regular one and did not notice any difference. And I do not think he is reacting to formula because he started being like this way before we introduced formula.
I use white noise since very ealy, but now I mostly use it in the evening to even out the noise from outside (I keep the window open and now that the weather is good there is a lot of people having dinners on their balconies, making a lot of noise) and i keep it on during the night on lower levels, sometimes I also use it during the day if it is noisy outside. But I have not noticed any difference in his behaviour. But the last couple of days it has been getting a bit better - he allows me to put him in the crib while being awake and sh/pat him there till he sleeps, not every time, but every other time is already good. I also elevated the head of the crib.
As for positioning - I very seldom feed him when he is flat, only when he is still sleeping, when he is awake I keep him quite vertical and most of the time I have to walk around holding him parallel to my body and rocking him so that he keeps eating - this started a while ago and it was the main reason for me to suspect reflux, since he almost does not have spit ups.
As for stomach sleep - I do'nt think it would work for him, he does not really like being on his belly, he gets upset so fast when being on his belly, it is always a struggle to have tummy time, I tried putting him to sleep couple of time on his belly about a month ago to see how he reacts but no, he did not like it and started crying. But I put him to sleep on his side and then later in the night he turns by himself on his back.
Domestic engineer - the early WU news is not making me happy as I was so hoping to get some sleep in the morning
but ok, if it is normal, it is normal. I tried putting him to sleep later couple of days in a row but it did not influence his WU time and I stopped as at least now I have some time in the evening to myself after I put him to sleep and sinc ehe is a short napper and I spend a lot of time with him during the day sometimes I really crave those precious moment of peace and quiet where I can just relax
weaver - thank you for the link, I read it (I love the kellymom site, it is so packed full of good advice on BF) but for us it is more the issue of a fussy eater I think, well not so much fussy as more not being comfortable enough to nurse properly, or so it seems to me.
and off the topic of sleep and eating, yesterday when we were at the doctor he had a huge disastrous meltdown for no apparent reason, well, I suspect he became scared of the new place & smells, he had the same during his 4 month appointment - he was screaming at the top of his lungs the moment he was put on the changing table to be undressed, it was terrible - he was screaming this very high pitched scream with tears rolling down his face, all red and shaking and there was NO way to calm him down, I was rocking him and shushing him and bouncing him and trying to give him th paci or breast - nothing worked! And in the mean time he had to be weighed and checked by the doctor so I had to put him down in this condition and I really feel horrible about it, I am not an expert in babies but do you think he might have some trust issues with me now? Because I was there, he saw me but I could not help him. I myself felt like I was failing him...
And any ideas what can I do in future to try and calm him down if he is scared?