Please, do not appologize. I am here for you because I want to:)You stop worry about us, you worry about you and your baby. Lots of hugs for you. You seem so tired and broken. Believe me it will get better in time, but for now... DO you think there is someone that can help you out? Mother, sister, friend or DH taking a day off to let you catch up on sleep?
Now let me answer some of your questions:
Should I hold her and use the paci for 1 nap just to get her out of her ot? Or should I just keep trying?
If you feel like she is OT and pacifier helps her. If you do not care about paci right now, if she has it or not. By all means use it! When LOs are OT they need some extra help to rest. Let's get her well rested and worry about paci later (but only if you want to do that.
Will OT still be such a big issue as time goes on? Will she be able to handle it better later and be able to sleep longer than 30 mins?
It will last until you get her on the right track. From my experience, it might take max 1 week:/ (it might be 2 days). If you ask in a long run, when LOs are older they take OT better. My 1 yo DS gives me clear signs when needs to lay down so it's easier.
I'm so scared that I'm actually making everything worse for her by not helping her rest at all...
Believe me, you are not. What she needs right now is a predictable day, routine that she will hold on to. That also means that if she has too many opportunities to nap she will just do quick naps.
(1/29/16)
Night waking: 3:00 and 6:00 resleep 6:30
WU :700
Here I have a question for you. Would you be able to start your day at 6 for 3-4 days? It doesn't mean that we want her to WU at 6, it's to let her body know, that if she wakes it's when the day starts (i.e. when my DS WU at 5, I started the day that time and he quickly got the idea). I mean, are you not too tired? Also, I feel like she didn't need that 30min, because when LO renap like that when they need it thay are asleep for 1h-1,5h.
Sleep 8:52 (can she stay awake this long after a 30 min stretch like she did?)
Yes, I am sure that she can, because later in the day she did 3h A time and by this moment she has almost 12h of night sleep:)
Sleep 11:46 (very fussy prior to this time, if she renapped for a short period would you count the wake time after that nap or the one before? )
I personaly count A time from the moment I pick DS from the crib and dress him to when he closes his eyes again. So any awake time between naps I ignore.
Let me sum up. She had 4 naps yesterday that summed up in 2h and 7 min. She has around 11,5h of ONS. Totak 13,5 of day sleep. How much time do you think she needs to be ok, 15 or 16 h? Let's make that happen:)
This is the plan if you want to try 6am:
6:00 WU (maybe she will wake later, who knows) You get up and start your day
8:20 nap1 Let's assume 40min
9-11:20 A
11:20-12:00 nap2 let's assume 40 min again
12-2:20 A
3:00 - 3:40 nap3 she has good A time here, so let's use it in her advantage:)
3:40-6 A time
6:00 you start putting her to bed, bath bottle... Maybe it's early, but it won't last. You'll see how it will shift.
Let me know what you think about it?
You can obviously move everything by 1h if WU at 7.
What do you think about it?
Let me know about how today went.
You can do this Azurose. This is just a part when you have to fight harder. Not for anybody, but for her, for you and your family.
Trust me. There is no 5yo that screems for naps. They just go to bed and say "bye bye mamma, see you tomorrow"