Not really sure where to start or where to even post this. Ds2 has always been a difficult baby - colic until 3 mo and then continuing feeding/constipation issues. He sleeps quite well - goes into his cot wide awake with his dummy and his comforter and goes off (unless he has wind). Trouble is I find it really hard to look after him all day. He's a big boy and very physical and every interaction is difficult. Changing his nappy - he kicks you as hard as he can constantly. If he's done a poo he'll put his legs together push them down and arch his back, making it incredibly difficult to clean his bum. And he's quite happy through all this - smiling at me as he kicks the daylights out of me.
Feeding him his breakfast is a nightmare. Complains loudly throughout and bounces in his highchair so violently that he moves his chair a foot from the table every few minutes. And his arms DO NOT STOP flapping up and down. He wants whatever he can see - the bowl the yoghurt pot, whatever and shouts until he gets it and then immediately throws it on the floor and then cries/shouts complains until someone picks it up. Then cleaning him up - more flapping shouting bouncing. So now it's time for playtime but I'm sick of him already and he's only been up for an hour
This goes on all day - and then it's time for his bath. Ds1 can't stand to share his bath with him cos he reaches out with his feet and kicks him as hard as he can. Either that or he flaps his arms to splash water so much the floor is soaked and ds1's eyes are sore from all the water going in them. He wears his sunglasses in the bath quite often!
So, basically, all the set pieces are a nightmare. When he is calm (for about 5 minutes total, all day) he's lovely. And he's pretty happy through all this (except mealtimes - but even then he will laugh and giggle sometimes - just don't keep him in the chair for 1 second after he's had enough...) But cuddles are a nightmare - bouncing flapping, just hideous. He's like a monkey with his feet - he wants to kick and push against everything in sight.
Anyone have any ideas?? Or can you explain to me why he's like this - if I understood it I'd find it easier to cope wiith I think? We have other problems like he still has a bottle in the night randomly - 3 or 4 times a week, sometimes as early as 3:30 am, he still has a df and I want to get him off his dummy but I really don't know where to start?? Really looking forward to going back to work. I must sound like a monster..