AWFUL! we had 2 good nights with only one NF, but of course, ALL naps are still bad, and I'm having to resettle for all of them! as a result, I am getting next to no sleep and I really can't go on much longer. Her feedings are all wonky too, not always hungry when she usually is, and then super starving an hour later, so I'm so confused and frustrated. I feel like I don't even know what her hunger cues are, as she's always putting her hands to her mouth and flicking out her little tongue. Im such a mess - I'm trying everything, I even tried to hold through the jolts yesterday, but she still woke up - mind you, I only did try the once. I feel like this is a disaster and I just don't know what to do
A couple observations
1. I ditched the soother - you were right, when it fell out, she woke up. And we did buy blackout curtains; now we just need a wider curtain rod so they extend a bit further beyond the window frame than they are doing now.
2. She seems very agitated in that swaddle, always writhing around, especially when she wakes early from a nap
3. I have noticed that the last day and a bit her naps are now about 40 min instead of 30 ... doesn't that mean UT? What the heck am I dealing with here?! I am so confused and frustrated, I have no idea what to do
4. If she's waking and not unhappy, should I even bother trying to resettle? How long do you give them to try and resettle themselves before going in and trying the shh/pat to get them back to sleep?
I usually am a firm believer in having to give everything a few days to kick in, but it's now been 3 weeks - I think I've reached my limit! I desperately need something to change. and it's hard to count small victories (like the fact that last night, once she was in bed and asleep, she didn't wake within the hour for the first time!) when you're so exhausted and it feels like everything, EVERYTHING, is an uphill struggle. I'm not expecting motherhood to be easy, but is it too much to ask for change when working so hard to achieve one?!
