Thanks so much everyone!! It is interesting to see all the different things that people have chosen, which I am kinda glad to see so that I am not missing the obvious choice!
My ped said that none of the milk alternatives out there will give enough fats that he will need so he HAS TO continue with the Neocate

I don't always full on go with what he says though, as I went against his suggestions and trialled Neocate when DS2 was 8.5 months old as I didn't think that this was as good as it got, and low and behold I now have had a "brand new" happy LO for almost 1.5 months! So far DS2 doesn't really seem to be too picky of an eater, and eats a wide variety of veggies, fruits, grains, meats, meat alternatives, and seems quite willing to try new things, so I am having a little internal dilemma about really needing to feed him formula (ok, expensive formula!) for the years to come...thinking I will keep with Neocate in the bottles, but he drinks quite well out of a cup so as the transition from bottles to cup comes along might go more with an alternative milk rather than have to mix up formula to keep in the fridge...and then die a little inside when he doesn't drink it all and I have to waste some of it...sigh...I think I am making this more of a hard decision than it really is!!!