Having a break down over 2 yos sleep. Please, please, please...any ideas?

[Love, laughter, & PJs]

That's great! I wonder if now that's he has no one to put a show on for, it's not so much fun.

[Mjaz]

Maybe!

[Jodes112]

Just wanted to say im really pleased and well done! Xx

[anna*]

Hey great news! Well done and hang in there.

[ZacsMumme]

Good luck for tonight sweetie

[Mjaz]

He STTN!  I pray it wasn't a fluke!

[Mjaz]

Should I keep the 1:30pm nap?  Later than we usually do...

[Love, laughter, & PJs]

Yay!! I say if it worked, try it again.

[Mjaz]

Yup!

[HenaV]

I would try it again but stick with it for 3/4days to allow things  to settle

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[Mjaz]

Oh man, tonight was painful. 

After 35 min of screaming he came up to me on the stairs.  He was hyperventilating and dripping, literally dripping, in sweat.  He looked at me and said "mama, hold me please" and I completely caved.  The poor kid. 

I think he was particularly upset bc he was his older brother and baby sister in mom and dads bed.  He seemed really hurt/left out.  Oi.

What do I do?

[HenaV]

I'm sorry you had such a tough time and I don't think you're going to like what im
Going to say, you need in my opinion too stay consistent in your approach if you want to crack this

[anna*]

I agree with Hena. I'd try not to let him see the others in mum and dad's bed, if possible.

When my LO was this age, he started wanting to sleep with the bedroom door open. Which was fine with me. But it did give me a tool, so that if he was screaming and carrying on I could say "If you want the door open, you must be quiet. This is too noisy." I'm wondering if something similar could work with sharing a room with his brother. I know it's not the same thing, and using big brother as a tool like that may not work, but I was just reminded of this and mthought I'd mention it, as it may be something that motivates him.

[anna*]

PS: When he's distressed and needs you to hold him for a moment, that's not caving, it's responding to his needs. Goofing off and throwing a tantrum, he doesn't need you. You are doing great. Hold strong, be consistent with your expectations, don't reward 'expected' behaviour - you all deserve some decent sleep here.

[okinawamama]

PS: When he's distressed and needs you to hold him for a moment, that's not caving, it's responding to his needs.

I was going to say the same thing. You can still be caring AND consistent. Without a doubt, I would have held him briefly, and then stuck to my guns and placed him back in his bed. To me, caving would have been rocking him to sleep, laying down with him, rubbing his back. To me, you were parenting him through a moment of insecurity. I have zero sleep advice (because it would be the blind leading the blind), but I did want to drop a comment of support by. You're doing a great job for you, your LO and your entire family!