Hello mamas and papas. I'm brand new here but have benefitted tremendously from the posts. I feel spoiled at the idea of personalized help so please know in advance how much gratitude I have for your time-I certainly know how limited it can be.
Summary of current situation: Sylvie is 4.5 months, the generally easy and happy, but has recently learned to roll and is coming off a GS so everything is mix d up. I have fostered non-independent sleeping so I feel like it's time to help her learn to fall asleep without me.
She's a cat napper during the day, 30-40 mins. For the first three months she napped exclusively in a wrap and slept long naps. At 3.5 months she started cat napping even in the wrap so I switched to nursing her an laying her down asleep, usually took 10 minutes. Since the sleep regression she sleeps 10-20 minutes, wakes up with the slightest noise and usually wants to keep my nipple in her mouth the whole time. If I remove it, she wakes. I SAHM so I often don't mind- she's my first and I adore holding her. But I know I am causing problems and think it's time to change some of this.
At night we co-sleep. I used to nurse her to asleep and key her down easily. Or nurse then husband rocks her till asleep. Now it takes two hours (her cat naps lead to OT by BT). Sh bused to sleep 7-8 hrs for the first stretch, now she does 4. She used to wake twice, now she wakes every hour. I used to be able to nurse then lay her back down right away, now it takes at least a half hour to get her asleep enough to lay her down. Husband used to be able to rock her, now it doesn't work well. She is nipple obsessed and its no fault of her own!
Typical schedule is
WU 6 am
Nurse
Play
Nurse
Down at 7
WU 7:40
And so on through the day.
BT is between 6 and 7.
Sometimes I do get a longer nap and then I can structure two hours between naps but if she doesn't get a long nap and only sleeps for a half hour she can't stay up for longer than one hour between naps.
Also I wanted to note that in the middle of the night for the last two nights I have been frustrated with the night wakings and have been able to get her back to sleep with Shhh Pat. I have laid her on her side or belly because now she is rolling so we have unswaddled her. I have tried maybe 10 times over the last couple of nights and it has worked twice.
I'm not sure what other information is relevant but I would be happy to respond to any other questions. Like everybody else, I have no plans to cry it out. And bed sharing is our plan for at least the first year. Also she is exclusively breast-fed.
Absolutely any advice or help would be incredibly useful. We plan to try pick up put down at some point but it sounds like we should wait until more like six months. So any advice for what should we should be doing in the next six weeks to try to get her to's go to bed alone and sleep longer stretches, Or generally get over this regression would be helpful.