We weaned the swaddle last month and since then, we are up to our necks in 'APing'. BT has always been easy with DD. Put her down & she sleeps off, only needing help when we had a bad nap day. Even then, we would PU - hold for a bit after she stopped crying- PD and keep a hand on her. We had reached a point where we didn't even have to PU. We simply patted/scratched/rubbed the mattress and she would sleep.
Now we are simply at a loss. Her sleeping off without help is a hit & a miss. It doesn't help that her A times are jumping like crazy and we are at 4 hours now, doing 1 nap + CN of 30 minutes. After that CN, she can stay awake for a max of 1.30hrs. But it is like I have a gun to my head to get her down. Even a bit earlier and she needs help. 5 minutes later and she needs help. It used to be that even after 2 good naps of 1.5 hours ending at 5, she would go to sleep at 7. UT was never a problem over here! Now she needs help every second day. And if she doesn't sleep independently, we can't soothe her in the crib. We have to hold her TILL SHE IS ASLEEP and then PD & still keep a hand on her or she will wake in a few minutes. It is driving me nuts. Every day we are digging ourselves in deeper and deeper! And I know that we cannot keep doing this. We need tools..some technique! We are hitting 9 months now, with the sleep regression it brings, then teething will start...there is so much on the horizon..and we need a way to help her sleep! WI/WO was suggested to me but it just makes her cry so much. I ended up nursing her to sleep the other day, which I almost never have to do.
With naps, she will either sleep on her own or we end up holding her for the entire nap! Another thing that we have not had to do. If we PU/PD, after 2-3 PDs, she gets her second wind and then nothing we do will make her sleep. This has led to days when she has stayed up for 6/7 hours at a stretch!I don't even have the time to sleep 'train' during naps as she is sleeping fine for the first one and the second is just 30 minutes, usually at 4.30 or 5..so no time to waste or BT gets pushed even later.
Can anyone suggest a gentle method for us to try?