What does your 19/ 20 month old day look like

[Eva's Mummy]

Just curious. We ate having lots of bt antics no matter what time I out her down she cries and cries the second I leave the room. We are doing
WU 7
Nap 12-2
BT 7

I'm. Actually thinking I might ty earlier nap and have a long a to BT.  We have only just moved to 1 nap a few weeks ago from here
WU 7 I woke
Nap 9:30 -10 I woke
Nap 1-3 I woke
BT 6:40

[jessmum46]

Bit older (22m) but typically WU 6-6.30, nap 12ish-2/2.30, BT 7pm.

I'm wondering if your LO actually needs an earlier BT? You've gone from a less than 12h day on two naps with 2.5h day sleep to a 12h day and 2h day sleep....

[Eva's Mummy]

Yeah we did kind of make a big jump. She was messing around at bt but she's still doing the now so maybe been more developmental or something.  She has a few nw's before 12 and 1 around 5 so sounds ot you think?

What would you try?

[jessmum46]

I'd pull back to 6.30 and see where you go from there.  Are you capping her nap or is she waking naturally?  I'd let her go longer if she will - you may be able to manage the 7pm bedtime if so . Just thinking she's always been HSN I think?  So I'd go more sleep not less for her in the first instance x

[Eva's Mummy]

She is hsn. I wake her in the morning and for her nap. I've seen her pull 13 / 14 hour nights and a nap at times. I guess I didn't really know whete to go when we went to 1 nap.  She probably would still take 2 naps but  I dropped to 1 when she wasn't tired at bt.

Let her sleep till 7:30 this morning (I woke her) then put her down for her nap at 11:45 . Would you still let her nap as long as she will then 6:30 bt?

Ps so nice to hear from you again Katherine the kids are getting so big aren't they x

[Eva's Mummy]

So I'm nervous about letting her sleep so long.  I've woke her at 2:20 so 2hrs 35 mins. Would you have let her sleep and when would you do 7pm bt tonight?

[jessmum46]

They do grow up quick don't they?

My feeling would be at this age, pick a set bedtime so if 7pm works, go with it.   Cap night or nap if you have to but not both to start with otherwise she has no opportunity to regulate herself.  I would have let her sleep probably just to see if she would go down at 7pm ok.  And then gradually worked on capping the nap and finding the right length to have her go down consistently at that time of day.

[Eva's Mummy]

Ok thanks.  Well we'll try 7 tonight then let her nap as long as she wants tomorrow then try 7 again and see how we get on. Thanks x

[Eva's Mummy]

Out like a light at 7. No crying at all. Just had a first nw so I'm guessing still ot?

[jessmum46]

Could well be, hope the rest of the night isn't too bad though x

[Eva's Mummy]

Just getting her down withing lots of screaming is millions times better.

[Eva's Mummy]

Well apart from that once she sttn. She's not done that in ages I'm over the moon x

[jessmum46]

[Eva's Mummy]

She's doing so much better pulling the a times back
 Do you think I should go with a set nap time uncapped then 4.5 hrs a time after nap x

[jessmum46]

I would personally go for set nap and set bedtime.  That way she can vary her nap length if she needs more or less sleep, and doesn't lose out on the extra sleep again by having bedtime moved.  It's worked really well for both of mine that way and when you start getting bedtime resistance you can slowly cap the nap to keep to the set bedtime.  When she was in the early months on one nap DD used to make up for bad sleep at nursery with huge naps of 3h at home, and would still go to bed at the same time as usual ie after a very short A.  I think really with toddlers it is more about setting times so their body clocks know what is going on, and leaving the adjusting up to them x