I"m so sorry I didn't answer the questions that you need. Totally mommy brain here.
Sorry Henna, I am finding it very difficult to advise you. I have asked several questions to clarify your routine and without the answers to these, plus some additional information about the recent EASY times you have posted I'm afraid I am in the dark and cannot make any suggestions.
I am totally lost as to when you are trying for the morning nap - it looked like you were going for a 3hr or 3hr 10 A time but then move up to 3hr 30 A time, and then on a couple of days you say you tried for a morning nap but she didn't sleep - what time was this? How long did you try for and, sorry, I'm not clear on why the nap then ended up being 2.35pm which is significantly later than I would have expected with a 6 hr A time - what happened?
so basically i was starting with a 3 hour awake time for morning nap and that seemed to be working but then she started not falling asleep easily so i thought maybe she needs a longer awake time. the times that i tried the morning nap and she didn't nap was around 3 hrs. i'm not sure what happened on the day her nap was 2.35pm...
The following day the nap comes at 5.5hr A time - again I am not sure why. Did you intentionally jump from 3hr/3hr 30 A time up to 5hr 30??
Also the BT is super late on that day too. So one nap only and LO going to bed at 9pm.
I didn't intentionally jump for 5 hr 30 min awake, she wasn't falling asleep for her nap. I think for next time i need to write down what time i put her down and how long she took to fall asleep or how long she was in her crib for without sleeping. i think that might help give you more information.
The next day you are back to napping at only 3hr A time.
Honey I am lost. Really I am looking over your times and trying to work out what is happening and what might be needed but without further information I am afraid I just can't. I'm not there to see how your Lo is responding or to see why an A time extends from 3hr to 5.5hr over night, or why BT is so late. I only have these times to go by.
bedtime is so late because sometimes she wakes up late. Its been about 3 weeks now of me trying to get her on a better routine so i started waking her up latest at 8:30am if she is not up on her own. so if she wakes up at 8:30am and then has a 13 hour day then bedtime would be 9:30pm which is late as it is but then it also takes her such a long time to fall asleep that it is super late by the time she is actually sleeping
Could you also tell me how you settle her down to sleep and if she is sleeping in her cot, or where? - as you said she is not yet an independent sleeper.
so how she settles: we go into her room, lights are dim, read a book and then i put her in her crib. She plays or relaxes in crib. If she cries, I mantra "baby its ok you are just going to sleep" until she calms down. And/or offer her milk. We recently transitioned from nursing to bottles and she needs every ounce of milk that she gets and sometimes if she is crying i will give her milk and then she will go to sleep. i'm not picking her up anymore and mostly not rubbing her back. just using the mantra to calm her down.
"Does she give tired cues at any time?"
yes she does give tired cues. the biggest problem is that she will give tired cues but then still take a long time to fall asleep.
"Also, how is she eating? Is she taking in much solid foods? And what milk feeds does she have?"
Milk is bottles before bed/naps and 1-2x in the night. She is offered solids through out the day, 3ish meals and snacks, but her in take is different each day
I really hope this is helpful and that I answered the questions. I'm sorry if i wasn't answering them before.
yesterday:
woke up, 7:30 or 7:40 maybe.
Put her down for nap at 11:55am, sleeping by 12:05pm. She woke up at 12:50pm and I resettled her until 12:55pm.
It was definitely long awake time for her but i wasn't sure what time to put her down and i didn't want to put her down too early and have her skip her nap. I wanted to wait at least 4 hours
And I resettled w Mantra and patting cuz its worth getting her a long nap.
She slept til almost 2 so another hr
so nap was from 12:05pm-1:55pm.
Bedtime: I put her in maybe 7:30pm and since then she was happy/playing, finally at 8:15pm decided to go In and see if more.milk could help her settle, and discovered she made a major poop. changed her diaper and pjs and she had a couple more oz. took her a long time to fall asleep though. she was finally asleep by 9:20pm. She had a lot of.milk tonight, like 9 oz or
