Just starting a new thread for some more eyes, hope that's ok.
B is nearly 13m, had a rough couple of weeks with teeth/illness and starting nursery but now well and not bothered by teeth as far as I can tell. We have unfortunately got stuck with early wake ups, perhaps not true EWs but too early for me!
We had previously been aiming for set nap around 11.30/45 as this fits with the usual nursery day, it wasn't working brilliantly but we were getting by with the odd CN in the morning to get to set time if he woke too early. Now it's not working as he is OT by set nap time and if nursery put him down sooner (which tbh they have done most days as they felt he was ready to sleep) they won't wake him so he gets two short naps. I can still get a CN and 'set' time to work ok-ish but seems a tad pointless in a way given nursery aren't pushing him to that time.
WU anywhere from 5-5.45, but typically 5.30ish
Up at 6 - he will happily play for 15-20 mins then start shouting, I will go in but try to just lie on floor/minimal interaction then lights on at 6. In an ideal world I'd love a 6.30 start but will accept 6.
Nursery days - two short naps of 15-50 mins, one mid-am and one mid-pm (Mon, Thu, Fri)
Home - short CN (15 mins max) in the morning at ~9.30 if he will then nap at 11.30/45 with varying success - often waking after 50/55 mins and resettling after quite a fight, total anywhere from 1h30 to 2h50 but broken
BT 6-6.30ish
Some early NWs most nights
Looking at that I'm guessing lack of consistency is a big factor.....but I just don't see nursery pushing him to 11.30/45 from such an early WU, not to mention there is no way they would resettle him if he woke early.
What to do? Two naps doesn't seem to work well any more. I think he needs one nap but 11.30/45 is too late right now. Would it be reasonable to pull nap back to 11am and ask nursery to get him as close to that as they can? Then push forward in 10/15 minute increments? Pull BT in earlier too or will that just reinforce the early starts?
Help appreciated xx