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Re: Need help, not coping very well.
« Reply #60 on: October 19, 2009, 17:50:00 pm »
Ugh I know. It's come around so fast. I think I'll move our clocks half an hour backwards for Friday/Saturday and then dive in on Sunday and hope it sorts itself out soon.





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Re: Need help, not coping very well.
« Reply #61 on: October 19, 2009, 17:57:13 pm »
noooooo!! Though it might be a good time for me to start with my LO's set nap/bed times... better that than start now and have to change in a few days time, who needs daylight savings anyway... x
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Re: Need help, not coping very well.
« Reply #62 on: October 19, 2009, 20:44:31 pm »
Ugh I know. It's come around so fast. I think I'll move our clocks half an hour backwards for Friday/Saturday and then dive in on Sunday and hope it sorts itself out soon.

You know i was thinking about you when someone mentioned the daylight saving to me the other day, i thought 'please no-one mention it to Anna yet, it might just send her over the edge'

Good idea about splitting the hour over 2 days/nights, i don't see why it wouldn't work.  I'm sure if Aunt Cathie were to tell Stanley how it works............. ;)

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Re: Need help, not coping very well.
« Reply #63 on: October 20, 2009, 05:13:26 am »
I think I might try that too... sounds like a plan... though I'm sure he'll still wake up early :( 4am here I come! Good luck ladies xx
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Re: Need help, not coping very well.
« Reply #64 on: October 22, 2009, 18:36:45 pm »
Argh, we were doing so well. Then he woke at 5.50 this morning, and is now overtired trying to put him to bed at 6.30!! What am I supposed to do with that, I physically can't get him into bed any earlier when I work, I dn't get to nursery til 5.30, it's 5.50 by the time we've done handover, walked home and got in the door. He's been crying and fussing and refusing to settle for an hour now, getting hysterical and crying for his cot, then getting hysterical again and crying for his big bed... Luckily Brad got back just before I lost my temper so he's taken over. I bet you anything it's going to be a 5.30am wake up again tomorrow. Boo.





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Re: Need help, not coping very well.
« Reply #65 on: October 22, 2009, 18:42:29 pm »
Oh no! Today we had only 1hr nap at 11-12, so got him in bed at 6 so I'm expecting a 5:30 wake-up call too... is your LO still awake now? I'm thankful that T doesn't put up a fight recently... though he'll probably wake in the night around 3am. Hope you have an ok night and anything after 5:30 wake-up tomorrow!!*hug* xx
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Re: Need help, not coping very well.
« Reply #66 on: October 22, 2009, 18:44:56 pm »
Yep, still awake. Although quiet now. I can hear DH singing, I guess he will rock him to sleep. I'm not that worried about the APOP, it's so rare that it doesn't really set us back (jinxing that now, tomorrow he'll demand daddy to cuddle him to sleep), the main thing is I just want him TO SLEEP!

Interestingly for anyone reading along, since I've had nursery giving him an earlier nap he's been regularly napping 1.5hrs there which he never used to before.





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Re: Need help, not coping very well.
« Reply #67 on: October 22, 2009, 18:48:49 pm »
Screaming again... it's going to be a long (and yet short) night.





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Re: Need help, not coping very well.
« Reply #68 on: October 22, 2009, 18:54:28 pm »
We had that a month or two back where he screeeaaaaamed the house down for hours and we ended up in the car at 8pm! If only they could understand that sleep is in their benefit and we need sleep too!!

So lo is sleeping better earlier in the day... Hmm... they must really be wearing him out in the arvo. Can you ask them to keep him chilled out in the afternoon if possible? Like quiet activities. (I honestly have no clue what its like as T isn't at nursery yet)

Really hope he gets to sleep fast for you. Xx

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Arrgh just read your new post, gosh its so stressful isn't it. Atleast you have your oh there now I guess. One thing we did was re-do the bedtime bit... milk, cuddles, then bed all over again when he settles so he knows it's bedtime again. Xx
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Re: Need help, not coping very well.
« Reply #69 on: October 22, 2009, 18:59:52 pm »
He's back in his cot basically going berserk.





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Re: Need help, not coping very well.
« Reply #70 on: October 22, 2009, 19:08:55 pm »
Big hugs honey- did you give any Motrin to rule out pain? Are you sure it's just OT at this point?
I've had good luck with a late night snack after crying- helps to settle back down-
I'm so sorry you've hit a rough day again, but you did have 4 great ones- it's bound to happen again!!

Now, Stanley, listen up, close your eyes and go to sleep! And, I want you to sleep till 7AM, because your Mama deserves a break!!
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Re: Need help, not coping very well.
« Reply #71 on: October 22, 2009, 19:11:35 pm »
Does he have his bed and cot in the same room?? I'm thinking maybe have one or the other...

Funny enough I watched a Baby Whisperer episode a few weeks back. It was about a 16month old girl with a cot and bed. She screamed for hours every bedtime. The parents were told to remove the bed, just use the cot, do pu/pd until she gave in as she was clearly tired. After a few nights all was fine again.

I think your lo needs to know he has one safe snuggly place to sleep and that when he's there, it's where he sleeps. I bet that although he's a little OT it's probably confusing for him too. Xx
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Re: Need help, not coping very well.
« Reply #72 on: October 22, 2009, 19:13:49 pm »
Now, Stanley, listen up, close your eyes and go to sleep! And, I want you to sleep till 7AM, because your Mama deserves a break!!

Agreed!! X
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Re: Need help, not coping very well.
« Reply #73 on: October 22, 2009, 19:45:58 pm »
*sighs*. Right well that's done. After 1hr45 mins of crazies, Brad brought him downstairs. He had 5 mins cuddle with me on the couch. I took him back to bed and sat with him while he fell asleep which took all of 5 minutes. Didn't do a snack (hadn't read my replies, wish I had) but whatever, he's asleep now.

The bed and the cot are set up in the same room. There's nowhere else for the bed to go (it's always been there since before he was born) so if anything has to go it will be the cot. I had been leaving it in there for a while after reading this http://babywhispererforums.com/index.php?topic=81192.0 about the transition taking some time, a bit like the 2-1 nap transition I guess.

I think this was all my fault. When we got home from nursery there was a parcel, a new toy from Nana in Canada. A little pull along helicopter, and helicopter's are Stan's favourite thing. When we can downstairs to put a sticker on Stan's chart for brushing his teeth, he asked if he could take the helicopter to bed and I said yes and I think that was my big mistake there. Then Brad got home and came in for a kiss (No! Stay out of here man!) and Stan was showing him the helicopter and saying 'propeller' ('preller'). Then he smacked himself in the teeth with the blasted helicopter. So OT (due to the early morning) and OS.

Mama learned her lesson GOOD tonight.





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Re: Need help, not coping very well.
« Reply #74 on: October 23, 2009, 04:19:40 am »
Ah atleast you know what caused it now (not that it helped much at the time)

How did the night go for you? We didn't have any nw's but up at 5am :( after 3days of 6am it's not good... hope lo is still asleep!! Xx
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