Just me... again...

[deckchariot]

awesome news on the 7am wake up!!!!!  Here's to hoping you get a good nap today!!!  fwiw, Abby sweats a lot when she sleeps too - I think it's just a kid thing....

[Fiver]

Callum sweats loads too.  When it was a bit warmer he was drenching his pillow each night.  I think some children just sweat more than others and ours are obviously the drippy ones

[babybarr]

Thanks for the reassurance on the sweating.  My immune deficiency fellows say it's also very common with an immune issue too.

So today did NOT go as planned!!

DS napped 1hr 10mins from 11.50am so pretty good going considering I thought he may short nap due to early nap etc.  My plan was to have him in bed for 6.15pm in the hope he fell asleep for 6.30pm hoping that maybe if we could catch up on some sleep things *may* just get better... I'm forever hopeful!  BUT my mother turned up at 5.30pm.  She goes away tomorrow and wanted to see him before she goes, to say I was annoyed is an undertstatement!!

So he went to bed at 6.35pm (not too bad going I didn't think) but it took him nearly an hour to fall asleep   and I wonder why I feel like I am banging my head against a brick wall !!!

I know tonight we missed the sleepy window and I am going to *try* and make a conscious effort to get him into bed sooner.  Yesterday taught me he can fall asleep at an A time of 5hrs 40mins after an hr and 50min nap in his tired state that when he naps only a little over an hour I need to get him to bed sooner. 

I know this routine tweak probably won't cure the problem but I do believe that the last few nights have been worse from even more OT'ness iyswim?

[babybarr]

Ok for those of you who haven't lost the will to live while reading my thread....

The Dr at the sleep clinic is "not proposing any further follow up in sleep clinic"

She has concluded that "his night time sleep is within normal limits....and these episodes represent a developmental stage in his night time sleep consolidation.  They may persist for some time to come, but importantly, do not jeopardise his total overnight sleep time and are not resulting in any behavioural disturbance"

If you have any spare support I could really do with some right now   

[MLK]

That really stinks! How stupid - just because he gets x amount of sleep overnight doesn't mean being a awake for 2+ hours or waking several tiems a night is "normal"! And they call themsleves experts!

By their criteria the only kids who woudl get help would be those havign a short night. That's ridiculous! Bascially they don't have a clue how to help you so they are tryign to "normalise" his sleep patterns.

[*Becky*]

Bascially they don't have a clue how to help you so they are tryign to "normalise" his sleep patterns.

Absolutely!
Oh Laura, that really sucks. So many hugs.
did you manage to find a chiropractor?
bx

[LizzieN]

Oh sweetie huge huge hugs....I'm so so sorry that this has turned into another useless exercise.  Hang in there sweetheart, we are all there for you xxxxxx

[Tweakster]

Laura so sorry.  But I am very glad that you kept persevering, you are very strong.  Is there any option to look for a second opinion?

[katie80]

Oh, that is so frustrating!  Many more hugs, Laura!!  I agree with Wendy and Lizzie:  keep persevering and we're all 'here' for you!   

[MummyToBen]

(((((((((Laura))))))))), that really is SO unhelpful  .  We're here for you, lovely. 

xxx

[babybarr]

Thank you girls.

TBH at this point I'm very close to just giving up.  My instinct tells me something is not right but I'm tired of the fight.  I've been through this all before when DS was first born and spent so many months crying and every professional I saw (on a weekly basis or more) telling me nothing was wrong.  At least this time things are bearable. He is generally a very happy little boy who has his ups and downs but at least is not screaming.  The thing that upsets me the most is just *how* lovely he is when he has had a good nights sleep and how unfair it is that he can't have that every night.

I don't know where to go from here and even people I thought were "on my side"  IRL seem to be dwindling

[Mom to M&M]

Hugs Laura! Like you said, definitely take solace in that he is a happy boy - speaks to what an awesome mama you are. If it were me, I'd probably go the chiro route, certainly can't hurt. And then if that doesn't work, I'd probably have to let it go for the time being and maybe readdress again in a few months? So sorry you aren't getting more help IRL or from the clinic...

[babybarr]

I'm really struggling to find a paed chiro - I wouldn't have thought it'd be that hard.  I am going to contact my health visitor too anyway so may ask her to have a dig around.

I'd probably have to let it go for the time being and maybe readdress again in a few months?

Yep it looks as though this is the only way.

The problem is I am really struggling.  I have zero patience and finding everything all too much atm.

[LucySol]

Hows it going with the earlier nap?have you given that a go? if they wont help you then you just have us...we wont give up!! xxxxxxxx

[Mom to M&M]

Have you checked out the forums at mothering.com? Usually a bit too all natural/crunchy for my taste but they are an excellent reference for some things. And they have a "finding your tribe" area which might be of help to you in finding a good local paed chiro?