Hey All,
I had a thread going since 5 months old, but thought that since we are two months down the track with slightly different circumstances, and more stressed than ever, I better start fresh. I can't take this NW'ing for much longer, I have permanent dark circles under my eyes, and permanent short temper, this is ridiculous!!!
DS2 has been on solids since 6 months, eats 12 foods (due to food intlolerances) and eats protein twice a day. I feel that his Nw'ing is assocation related. I definantly think he needs one feed, but not anymore than that.
Some nights all the feeds are just snacks, some nights one feed is large and the rest snacks. He has been also having long NW'ings every 3 days or so sometimes around 4-5 am. this is really bugging me and was relsoved after we dropped the third cat npa and went to 2 naps, but now is back again.
He also NW's for at least an hour if I try to meddle with the feed, ie reduce the amount of minutes and take him off the boob. I have had a few "one off attempts" to do this in the last few weeks and he gets really unsettled and cries and cries (more than mantra crying) demanding to be re-fed, and won't settle for me or DH until he gets back on the boob. So he is quite stubborn about his feeding at night situation.
The problem is that during the day, I feed him about 5 mins before bed, then pop him in the cot. He's falling asleep peacefully in the cot, but only because he's had his windown with a feed. I've really stuffed this up I think. I as doing it whilst he was establishing on solids to prevent him wakign early from his naps from hunger. Now I know hunger is not an issue, I haven't pulled these feeds back from his nap time.
Today I fed him 10 mins before sleep and so by sleep time he kciked off for 40 mins, very very angry crying and if I put him back in the cot he would break out a new into a fresh angry fit, this went on for 40 mins and I gave in and fed him where he promptly went to sleep! He is swaddled tighly for bed BTW. He really needs the swaddle to settle.
Help! I need a plan! Do I choose a night feed and send DH to resettle without feeding?
Routine:
wake: 6am
Feed: 7am
Solids 7:30am
Sleep 9:15am (small top up before bed)
Wake 10:45am or 11:15 (1.5 - 2 hours nap)
Feed: 12:00pm
Solids: 1:00pm
Sleep: approx 2pm (approx 1.5 hours) (small top up before bed)
Wake: 3:30pm
Feed: 4:00pm
Solids: 5:00pm
Feed: 7:00pm
Bed:7:00pm
NW approx 10-11pm - feed (If I take him off the bobo early he will be awake crying alot on and off pretty angry)
NW approx 2-3am - feed (every 2nd day he skips this feed)
NW apporox 4:30am- 5am - feed and often up for a long time playing afterwards
thanks for reading