Author Topic: 15 mo, never sttn *update-she did it!!*  (Read 30020 times)

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Claire, have you tried set nap and BT with the one nap per day?  I found A times to be SO reliable before 12 months and so unreliable after 12 months (around the time of moving to 1 nap which was between 11 and 12 months for us).  Our morning WU time is variable, going by A times would move the nap all over the place but set naps work a treat.  We do have one-off days where there will be an unusually early nap usually due to teething pain so there is still flexibility to allow for LO's illness or teeth or development sleep disturbances etc but on the whole the set nap is a winner.
Maybe worth a try.  I find it a lot easier to manage personally too as I know how our normal day is going to pan out.  It could be helpful with you having the preschool run to fit around?


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Claire, have you tried set nap and BT with the one nap per day?  I found A times to be SO reliable before 12 months and so unreliable after 12 months
^^^this.  We've done just the same since going to 1 nap, its been the only way to give any predictability & consistency to our day.  x

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Have you tried the meds yet?

I also would def vouch for set nap. ((((((()))))))
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how was the weekend hun?




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Hi Claire,

Sweetheart, just want to send lots of love, it sounds like and exhausting time and you should NEVER feel bad for feeling like you need a break, you are a 'human being' and no wonder you're exhausted. Is there any way any of this could be to do with the dark at night  ??? I wonder if a 'night light (if she hasn't already got one) may soothe her, or gentle music etc. I have never used anything like that for Sam but I know some parents have had big success. I just wonder if she is getting so anxious at BT because she is associating lying down with pain and anticipating it, so maybe if you can change something and set a relaxing scene (light show with music type toy  ???) it could take her mind of things. You could also try propping her mattress with pillows underneath, sorry I may have mentioned this already.

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Thanks for checking in  :-*, our internet has been down and I can't reply to messages on my phone. 

Well the weekend has been pretty horrendous  :'(.  Her head is covered in bruises from how much she has been banging it on her cot - and I am going to have to take a video of her doing it as I am worried in case the doctor suspects I am hurting her  :-[ :'(.  She was up for two hour long NWs on Saturday night just screaming and banging.  Even after I'd fed her she would not settle  :-\.  Taking 30mins to 1.5 hours of screaming before she conks out for naps, and then short napping as she is so ridiculously OT by the time she gets to sleep.  TBH I don't think that set naps are going to help at the moment  :-\ - she's in the middle of 2:1 (and still not ready for one nap every day, she's fairly high sleep needs) and clearly exhausted from all the trouble we're having. 

Tonight was the best night we've had for ages (she'd had calpol and nurofen - so I'm going to try that tomorrow as well).  It only took 45 mins to get her down, but she was much calmer towards the end and let DH stroke her hair and she quietly lay herself down and went to sleep  :).

So am going to give both meds again tomorrow and see how we go.  Also booked in to see the GP again on Wed to get her ears rechecked and to get them to test her poo to see if there's something wrong there.  She's pooing so much mucous it's gross  :-X.   

I just wonder if she is getting so anxious at BT because she is associating lying down with pain and anticipating it, so maybe if you can change something and set a relaxing scene (light show with music type toy  ???) it could take her mind of things. You could also try propping her mattress with pillows underneath, sorry I may have mentioned this already.
Thank you.  yes, I have tried putting on some gentle music and put her a glow-worm thing in her bed but it just doesn't seem to help once she starts going wild!  She's got her mattress propped up for reflux so hopefully that would help her ears too. 

She's had 50 mins of sleep all day again so wish us luck for tonight!
Claire x



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Oh Claire, it sounds so upsetting :'( really hope toucan get to the bottom of this soon so you can all relax a bit... How distressing!





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Oh honey, that sounds very distressing :'(

Hope the doc is able to help somehow. xx

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Oh Claire, you poor thing (((((((((((hugs))))))))))) Hope the dr can find "something". :-*
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"Toucan"?? stupid autocorrect.





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Lol - made me smile though :D!

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And me ;)
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Sorry to hear things are so bad xx hugs


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Wooop!! She settled herself for her nap for the first time this month  ;D!!!  And I put Ben down for a nap too as I needed a rest (he'll be up til 9 tonight but I figure DH will be home then  ;) ;))...so they have both been asleep for 1.h hours so far!!!  I feel like a new woman  :P

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wow - enjoy :)




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