these naps are just wearing me down

[*Becky*]

M is 18 months and we have pretty much been on 1 nap for about 3 weeks. She has done about 2 good naps and maybe another 2 more that were ok but the majority are anything from 1-1.20 and it is getting me down as we then have to do a ridiculously early BT.
Where am I going wrong??
Wake up is anytime from 5.45-7am depending on whether she has a NWing around 4.30am or not. Most of the time we try to keep nap to 11.30-12pm, a touch earlier if she has been up at 5.45am. I can't figure it out at all and need help. She was a good napper on 2 naps so it is not that she is just a bad napper.
Yesterday she had to do 2 naps as we were out and they were very short as she does not nap well out and about so she had an EBT and slept 12.15 which is amazing but again we get a bad nap. I wonder if i am pushing her too far in the am but surely after a good night she should be able to handle it?? I never push her over 5.5 hours and sometimes more like 5. I am just getting frustrated.

[C&B&E]

I wonder if i am pushing her too far in the am but surely after a good night she should be able to handle it??

I think this is the thing - it feels like she 'should' be able to handle it, but the short naps are perhaps saying that she can't  .  Not really sure what the answer is though otherwise E would be sleeping better 

[*Becky*]

I guess all I can do is pull back to 5 hours A and see....she did fall asleep in the car after 5 hours so maybe that is where she is at. She just HAS to do a good nap if she goes down after 5 hours or BT is a long way off yk?

[C&B&E]

Oh yes I know it only too well! Could you try a 5 hour tomorrow and just see if it helps?

[*Becky*]

will do x

[clazzat]

I have no useful advice but thought I would drop off some hugs as we have somehow reached the point where 45 minutes is a long nap. I managed to ap a nearly 2h nap today, but I think that was just because he has reached total exhaustion - generally he is pretty resistant to ap as well - but I'm hoping that it might help him reset a bit m

[*Becky*]

I WISH I could AP here, it is SO frustrating but she will not have it and I have tried and tried.
Uggh, it is horrid isn't it. I had forgotten this stage...although I am sure H got it more quickly than M!!
Another early BT...sigh....

[*Becky*]

she did a good night but up at 5.50am so doing 5 hours A is so tricky, I just really feel we will end up with a 5pm BT or something and I do find that very difficult. She is clearly not that OT or we would be having lots more issues but she just won't take a decent nap....

[C&B&E]

Have you tried w2s with her Becky? I've not tried it for ages with e, but if you are consistently getting short naps then you've not got much to lose  .

[*Becky*]

No...I will do the next time H is at pre school. It is bad enough as it is with me asking him to be quiet all the time, I just don't think I can spend that long in her room tbh.

[*Becky*]

am wondering if I should just be very rigid and set times for good...she should handle it but I know she won't if that makes any sense. I just can't do 6pm BT's forever.

[*Becky*]

another 1.15. yawn.

[C&B&E]

Does it make you feel any better to hear that ev took another 20 minute nap for the second day in a row

[*Becky*]

oh claire - was that her am or pm nap??

What is it with these girls??

[C&B&E]

that was the nap that I started settling her for at 10am today and where she finally fell asleep at 1.45pm  (got her up for 15 minutes to give her lunch at one point)...and then woke 17 minutes later  !

Hope little miss Martha pulls off a good night