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Re: Is there anything I can do to improve his mood?
« Reply #120 on: January 25, 2015, 10:52:35 am »
So we did 1-2 again yesterday and today aiming to be as consistent as possible.

WU: chatting from 6, OOB at 7 w/ gro clock
Nap: 1-2 woken, takes about 10-15mins to fall asleep
BT: 7.30. Not asleep until 8.15

WU: 6ish, OOB st 7 w/ gro clock
Nap: 1-2 woken, 10mins to fall asleep
BT: 7.45. Screamed "no bed time, no bedtime" and didn't want to get into bed but I thought he was quite tired but took until 8.20 to fall asleep. 

Does this sound ok? It doesn't seem enough rest and he is quite miserable.



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Re: Is there anything I can do to improve his mood?
« Reply #121 on: January 25, 2015, 11:25:27 am »
Forgive me if I'm going over old ground Hun, I'm following a lot of similar threads at the moment.

Would he take an earlier nap, as early as possible  ??? If so he would be easier to wake, and could fall asleep at BT a lot faster, shortening his day. Worked for us and has worked for others. I think I remember that he has always needed a long am A time in the past, but IME when the 1-0 hits it's not always relevant, anything goes and you never know what will work.

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Re: Is there anything I can do to improve his mood?
« Reply #122 on: January 25, 2015, 11:55:18 am »
I could most definitely try but not sure how that would work timings wise? Still an hour nap or longer. 
Does an earlier nap correlate to an earlier morning? It always has seemed to here strangely...



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Re: Is there anything I can do to improve his mood?
« Reply #123 on: January 25, 2015, 13:02:34 pm »
could most definitely try but not sure how that would work timings wise? Still an hour nap or longer. 

Yes, same length nap Hun.

Does an earlier nap correlate to an earlier morning? It always has seemed to here strangely...


Something I have been looking into WRT older LO's and the 1-0. It appears to me so far that and early nap and EW don't necessarily relate once a LO reaches this age, but I'd be interested to see if the other ladies agree  ???

If he is waking at 6 consistently, then you could try this:

WU 6.00

Nap 11 to 12

BT 7.00 (see what time he goes to sleep)

Looking at his schedule the last couple of days he is falling asleep around 6hrs 15 after his nap. IF he will nap sooner, a 7 pm BT gives you 7 hours from nap already, meaning he should in theory fall asleep much faster. Also the sooner nap will help him deal with the afternoon length hopefully, as it is more restorative. You could even try winding him down at 6.30. I guess if it worked that WU would shift later and you might be looking at the above routine but with a 1 hour later shift.

Does that make sense  ??? It's just often better to try shifting the nap rather than shortening it as a first port of call, because during this transition a longer night doesn't always follow a shorter nap, it just helps the LO go to sleep better.

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Re: Is there anything I can do to improve his mood?
« Reply #124 on: January 25, 2015, 13:43:31 pm »
We do pretty similar to what Vicky suggests just an hour ahead...

7 am wake up
1 pm nap (45-60 min)
8 pm bedtime

The only thing here that reinforces an ew is if I let the nap go too long. Right now it is all out the window due to sickness, but that has been our routine for ages (give or take - she will now answer yes or no and go off to her room when asked if she is tired and ready for night night so we follow her lead).
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Re: Is there anything I can do to improve his mood?
« Reply #125 on: January 25, 2015, 13:58:13 pm »
she will now answer yes or no and go off to her room when asked if she is tired and ready for night night so we follow her lead).


Clever girl :) x.



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Re: Is there anything I can do to improve his mood?
« Reply #126 on: January 25, 2015, 23:34:35 pm »
Hi ladies!!

Thank you. Today H came into my room at 5.45 asking to do a wee. Put him back to bed straight after but not sure if he went back to sleep. Hopped out at 7 as per gro clock.

Sadly, there is no way I will get him down for a nap at 11. I can see how he's tracking closer to midday and try a nap then?! Is there anything else that will help him sleep later in the morning and be well rested through the day?

Much appreciated.
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Re: Is there anything I can do to improve his mood?
« Reply #127 on: January 26, 2015, 09:11:52 am »
Hun is it that you won't have chance to get him down at 11 ??? Or that you don't think he will go?  Honestly if it's the latter, I would just give it a shot.  I never thought an early nap would work with my DD but in the 1-0 she would sometimes nap at nursery at 11.30am from a 6.30/7am WU if she was tired enough.  I don't think she'd have done it every day but I was never brave enough to try it  :P. But what's the worst that can happen?  You try, he doesn't go, you get him up, give him lunch and try again after :)

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Re: Is there anything I can do to improve his mood?
« Reply #128 on: January 26, 2015, 09:12:34 am »
Oh and my other thought would be pull bt a touch earlier with that 1h nap x

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Re: Is there anything I can do to improve his mood?
« Reply #129 on: January 26, 2015, 09:27:38 am »
Ok, so I spent 2hrs getting him down for a nap today. He positively refused to even go near his room until usual 1pm.

BT was 7.40 as we were out but was not at all interested in sleep in the car home. Was a bit sluggish getting into bed and hopped out a couple of times but was asleep about 8.05 (about 25mins).

So confusing.



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Re: Is there anything I can do to improve his mood?
« Reply #130 on: January 26, 2015, 10:06:10 am »
Ok, so I spent 2hrs getting him down for a nap today. He positively refused to even go near his room until usual 1pm.

Oooh the little tinker, he rained all over my parade there! ;)  ::)

Well done for giving it a try Hun  ::) At least now you know. I'll give it some more thought.x.



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Re: Is there anything I can do to improve his mood?
« Reply #131 on: February 03, 2015, 20:17:24 pm »
Hi!! It's me again...

So, H is basically miserable all the time. I can't seem to make him happy and he most certainly isn't interested in occupying himself with the millions of toys he has. He just mopes around saying he's "still hungry" every 30 minutes. The tantrums and whinging and crying has reached an extremely high level. I'm struggling with waking after an hour as he yells at me "mummy go away, I want to go to sleep".
Today was a new one too. In between crying and whinging he took himself to bed for a "rest" about 10 times. I found him with his comforters in bed, on my bed, on the floor - sucking his finger and resting. After a nap he's craxy and we have lots of meltdowns (tonight he though his whole dinner in the bin without touching it!!) and then just goes crazy hyperactive - he's like a windup toy screaming and carrying on. 

Wakeups are all over the shot from before 6am to close to 7am but the later sleep-ins are usually the result of very restless nights with lots of call outs.

EASY at the moment looks like;
WU: ??
Nap: 1-2 capped. Takes up to 15mins to fall asleep and Can take me 20mins to get him up.
BT:  7.30 but never asleep before 8 (usually 8.10/8.15).

Bedtime and nap is a lot better resistance wise (pretty sure he was boundry pushing after our holiday). We're also facing some toilet training issues which aren't being helped my his behaviour, mood and what appears as exhaustion.



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Re: Is there anything I can do to improve his mood?
« Reply #132 on: February 03, 2015, 20:18:07 pm »
Funnily enough; it's 7.17 and he's still asleep - first time in his entire life!!



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Re: Is there anything I can do to improve his mood?
« Reply #133 on: February 03, 2015, 20:54:16 pm »
Do you think he's coming down with something?  Or any instinct saying it might be worth getting him checked by doc?  Bad mood plus fatigue sounds like he's ill.  Wanting to eat all the time is (sometimes) totally normal, my two yo grazes her way through the whole morning sometimes.  I think I'd want to discuss it with a medic if it seemed very closely linked to mood.
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Re: Is there anything I can do to improve his mood?
« Reply #134 on: February 04, 2015, 03:34:12 am »
I think yesterday was a reaction to yoghurt. He has pretty bad food intolerances and yoghurt particularly seems to wreak havoc with his mood and behaviour.

with the sleep in today we've missed a nap! NO idea what time to put him down tonight!!