Hi Honey
...The sickness and teething is however bad timing, as usually it's very hard to enforce any sleep training during these times . However I do in your case think it worth trying to stick with it because there is every chance it is still the best way to get the most sleep into him, just bear in mind that the results might not show until he is through it, but the good habits can still be enforced in the meantime, but don't be afraid to give him the comfort that he needs, I hope that makes sense
So for his routine, it can be difficult if settling times are long. Usually I would say to pick a wake up time and go with it every day, but as he is under the weather (UTW) this could be tricky. Daytime sleep would usually be capped at 3 hours at this age max. As it's hard to say if your DS is low/average or high sleep needs until a routine is established, it will be trial and error for a while Sweetie. Main thing is to start establishing good habits, keeping up the PD training and him sleeping in his own bed, and the rest will follow. But as a guide, I'd keep pushing the nap by 15 mins if that is what you have started, so a 7.45 WU and shooting for a nap around 10. Who knows what time he will actually fall asleep, and my hunch is he will probably wake himself before you have to cap, but if not I would cap at 2 hours, and PM nap length and time will depend on the wake up (WU) time and length of nap. I'm sorry I know this isn't as clean cut and laid out as we would like it to be But you can check back with us regularly, for further advise.
I just wanted to give you an update with how DS is doing.
He still has a runny nose (green snot, buggers and all,) but he is doing SOOO MUCH BETTER with NT and BT! its amazing. 9/ 10 he falls asleep in 5-15 minutes and usually sleeps for 1 hr for NT and during the night is about 2 hour stretches.
Also, he is doing way better with actually eating solid foods. Its not as much as it could/should be for a toddler his age, but its better than before!
Nights still have some room for improvement, but last night was a good night, at least he wasn't frantic when I put him down after only giving him a short 12 am feed; he isn't screaming as loud, is quicker to settle and go back to sleep (even if he did wake an hour later to finish feeding). DH and i agreed that when he gets over his cold we will work on decreasing the night feeds and eventually cut them out all together.
Sunday night/ Monday morning and day, looked like:
Sunday night:
6:40 pm began BT routine
6:55 put in crib awake (little cry out but layed down right away.)
7:40pm asleep, 10 mins later cried but settled right away on own.
gave a 9pm Dream feed.
11pm wake up crying. PD for 45 mins. he was hysterical.
1 am WU crying. BF for 10 mins back to sleep, back in crib with no incident
@ 2:50am I stroked him to slightly wake him to reset sleep. it didn't work.
3:15 WU crying. so BF.. but he wasn't feeding, just suckling. stirred him enough to feed some; put in crib with no incident
5:35 WU crying. so BF
6:40 WU crying NO BF this time, got him up for the day.
E 7:40am offered solids; ate very little
A 7:55am independent play.
E 8:50am offered solids candied salmon, ate 6 bites, refused cheese, refused red meat.
S 9:10am Cranky and tired. NT routine BF rt side. Cried for 1 min after being put in crib, then mantra cried for 10 minutes, I consoled him 3 times.
9:25am asleep. after falling asleep for 1 min he did 1 big, short, cry out (whistle still sleeping, & stayed asleep)
10:55 WU crying ( do they eventually stop doing that?) On WU i don't remember if I BF.
A 11am
E 1pm great eating of solids!
S 1:45pm BF to sleep (oops!) Nose was very congested & full of mucous even after clearing it out to the best of my ability. He woke up in 10 minutes (once i tired laying him in his crib). Kept doing PD until about 2:45
A 2:50 - 5:45pm play with me and then dad.
6:15 began BT routine. quite tired, impatient and agitated. only read 3 pg of BT story.
6:35 in crib, no crying. Stood up once and protested but sat himself back down and fell asleep in 10 minutes!!! AWESOME JOB LITTLE GUY!
it was a rough AM but awesome PM.
Monday night at 7:40pm, 10:30, he cried out but didn't wake up. @ 11:30pm cried out again but I gave soothing word to get him back to sleep.
Now, for some moms, this would be a piece of cake, for others, they might pull out their hair. For me, Im satisfied for the progress but there is still room for improvement.
Tuesday, today, (from 12 am - 6:30 am) looked like:
12:40 am woke up and wouldn't settle on own or with soothing words. BF one side and took off, put in crib. MAN, DID HE CRY! was able to sooth to sleep eventually.
1:30 WU crying and wouldn't soothe on own, BF the other side. Fell asleep and put in crib without incident.
2:50 and sometime during the 3am hour he mantra cried out, but... i think he put himself back down.
5:25 am 1 mantra cry, settled for 10 minutes but woke up 10 mins later.
I kept him in his crib, he seemed to be in and out of consciousness for about 15 mins. He kept sitting up, but then laying down on his own, or when I asked him to. A few times of PD. This kept going on until 6:30. Then I got him up for the day. He had a very wet diaper and snot coming down his nose.
What does anyone make of these past days? Do you have suggestions of how to tweak the day or evening to help him sleep through the night? I'm prepared to stop Night BF once he gets better from his cold.
I'm not too sure he wants or needs 12 hours during the night. Maybe I should try 10.5 or 11 hrs of sleep?
Also, that 2nd nap yesterday, with it being so short, do you think that helped with him sleeping much better through the night? should I cap today's second nap? He is 40 mins in.