Thank you so much honey.
Does she give good sleepy cues?
Not really, this morning she was rubbing her eyes at 2hrs which I expected after a 5:30 WU but I kept he up 3hrs and I woke her after 2hrs (not sure if I should have let her sleep).
She's HSN right?
I would say so she used to do 14.5hr nights and still 4.5hrs during the day sometimes more.
Also, just a thought but how much intervening do you think you are doing vs how much you really need to do at night iykwim?
I'm not sure, for naps I usually just put her in her sleeping bag in my room, give her a little cuddle, carry her into her room lie her down and leave. She will have a quiet moan and play with her blankie then fall asleep. She also has a dummy.
At BT as soon as I leave she starts crying, (occassionaly she does the same as naps but not so much recently). I try to lay a hand on her chest and rub her head which works at BT but not during the night, she wants picked up then. I guess I'm trying to get her to sleep before she gets really OT then it takes me ages to get her down. I'm always rushing to get her to sleep before DH brings DD1 home, when she is in she keeps running in and out of the room waking her up or screaming/crying for me at the stair gate.
How would you feel about just leaving her be if she is not crying hard, and if she is maybe instead of trying to make her sleep, just being with her while she does it herself? I sat on the floor next to DSs crib in the end for an hour and a half while he cried and yelled and got cross trying to settle.
How long would you leave it, I imagine she might have cried for the full 3hrs last week (but maybe not). You said he cried and yelled, how do you know when that escalates to hard crying. Do you mean like when she gets herself really upset and she start coughing and sobbing proper tears?
I guess I might manage that, it will be so hard leaving her though. I have never left either of then to cry. So would that just prove that she can go to sleep herself?
Can you shorten up her first A for a day or two, perhaps just put her down as soon as she looks like she might go?
This morning was:
WU 5:30
A 2hrs 56mins
S 8:26 - 10:26 (2hrs)
A 2hrs 53mins
S 13:19 - 14:46 (1hr 27mins)
**What would you do about the times of CN / BT, I'm guessing I will need a CN to try to get a later WU tomorrow then start from there?**
So if I pull back the first A to say 2hrs 45min again, what would you do for the next 1? I feel scared puling back but I guess I'm having horrible nights as it is, so what's the difference!
I was always under the impression that long NW were UT and ENW were OT so I couldn't decide what to do?