We're having strange night wakings as well. We're getting a wakeup around 1am, one around 3am and we feed, and then around 5am again. She'll shout out for us to come see her, but we ignore her. Sometimes she gets fussy and we'll replug the paci. Sometimes it helps, sometimes she just has to fuss herself back to sleep.
Katie sleeps very little at daycare - like 2 naps lasting 30-45 minutes. So she might get 1-1.5 hours of naps when dad picks her up at 3pm (pickup time can be anywhere from 1pm to 4:30pm). So when she gets home (or on the way home), she takes a "power nap" and can sleep like 2 hours. So her total daytime sleep is around 3hours (although very lopsided). But, I think our problem is that she's getting such a long nap very late in the day. She'll wake up from it anywhere from 4pm to 6pm. I don't think she's getting tired enough for bedtime and a long nighttime sleep cuz the A time is short before bed. (Shouldn't that be growing into the longest one?)
So, would you smart mommies limit the daytime sleep, waking her from her nap so that she has a long 3hr A time before bed? Even if this means that her daytime sleep would only be about 2hrs total? Or is it more of an overtired thing and should I focus on getting her optimal daytime sleep and adjust bedtime accordingly?
On the weekends, she doesn't have trouble taking 1.5 hr nap in the am and the pm. Sometimes she needs more (I think she's catching up from the lack of sleep during the week).