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sleeper training diary: bring it on!
« on: August 21, 2008, 20:14:11 pm »
Some background history, DD started off an independent sleeper then we hit BAD reflux and got inot rocking to sleep and for the last yr or so we have had hideous nights, never STTN always diff medical issues blah blah blah. I have had enough and need to sleep train her to remove whatever of the wakeups are due to that (not all are but I need to be up less than a million times a night)
 SO I have sent Dp and Ds off on hol and I am soing this 'head on' got tons of determination!
Today I decided she needed to be in a seperate room (was in with me) and on 1 nap only (sometimes he was still having two due to OT from bad naps) And so today she woke 6.15 i made her hold out till 12.15 where she fell asleep on her bottle and then i rustled her to put her in her cot so she knew she was going down and she slept 2 hrs (just over) then bedtime she was pretty OT again went to sleep same way at 7.30 (with my hand on her back and no cry) SO i guess I ahve accomplished not rocking to sleep in day 1 but she wasn't asleep independently. She's woken a few times alreayd and each time I went in PD and told her shh go to sleep and never PU! Acheivement! usually i rock nack to sleep. SO my aim for tonight (its gonna be a loooooooong night) is never PU just soothe in cot no matter what it takes.

what do you think? :'(
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Re: sleeper training diary, support pls?
« Reply #1 on: August 21, 2008, 20:22:01 pm »
Good luck Michelle  :-*
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Re: sleeper training diary, support pls?
« Reply #2 on: August 21, 2008, 20:51:56 pm »
good luck is right!!!!  We had a similar issue with dd after she had been sick (we rocked her after her NWs) and suddenly  - she "needed" us to rock her in the middle of the night.  We did wi/wo with her - committed to not picking her up no matter what.  The first night was bloody awful - 3 hr (almost 4) of screaming, quiet, leaving, screaming......but the bright side is that the next night - only 1 NW, solved with a quick "it's time for night night" and out the door again.  And no NWs since.  So it worked! 

good luck!!!!!
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Re: sleeper training diary, support pls?
« Reply #3 on: August 21, 2008, 21:18:19 pm »
Had to come and find your thread :)
It sounds like you're doing really great so far hun. I'm sure all the hard work will be worth it and fingers crossed she might catch on as quick as the other Michelle's LO.
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Re: sleeper training diary, support pls?
« Reply #4 on: August 21, 2008, 23:53:49 pm »
Just wanted to drop off some strength for you and sleepy vibes for your DD.
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Re: sleeper training diary, support pls?
« Reply #5 on: August 22, 2008, 02:31:01 am »
Good luck!!! just remember it will all pay off and if you're consistent she will "get it"!!!
you'll do great!
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« Reply #6 on: August 22, 2008, 02:37:55 am »
Great start Michelle you can do it i promise we are here to help you and support you  :-*
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Re: sleeper training diary, support pls?
« Reply #7 on: August 22, 2008, 06:36:31 am »
hooorah!!! Last night as I said she fell asleep instantly but was svery very tired. She woke a few times before I went to bed at 11 but i never pu and she was easy to settle. In the night I think I heard her cry out or stir a few times but I only went in at 5.40 when she thought it was wakeup time and I did end up rocking her to sleep and she slept till 7.30. SO I remember this happening with thomas too, we got better nights but then had EWs and I really think I need to address the EWs when she is consistently able to put herself back to sleep otherwise I have crazy early mornings with totally OT kid and routine (which to me is crucial for this to work=) out of the window. So while it isn't ideal , I will accept some AP for an EW for a few days when I KNOW she can go back to sleep indep I will start not PU for ams ttoo

But the GOOD news that I want to foucs on is that she pretty much STTN except a bit of fussing and a few early evening resettles YAY!!!!!!

I think her being in another room makes a massive diff. If i hadn't had the monitor on LOUd (which i didn0t need as she's next door to me) I wouldn't have heard her....
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Re: sleeper training diary, support pls?
« Reply #8 on: August 22, 2008, 06:49:40 am »
Well done Michelle :)

Cheering you on here too xxx
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« Reply #9 on: August 22, 2008, 13:33:03 pm »
YAY for you Michelle!!!!
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Re: sleeper training diary, support pls?
« Reply #10 on: August 22, 2008, 14:46:39 pm »
that's awesome!!!!!!!! good job!!
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Re: sleeper training diary, support pls?
« Reply #11 on: August 22, 2008, 15:10:31 pm »
Brill Michelle ;D ;D ;D
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Re: sleeper training diary, support pls?
« Reply #12 on: August 22, 2008, 19:45:55 pm »
Oh dear....clearly last night she was pretyt much asleep when I put her down. Today they real stuff started, what I remember wwith thomas!! I just want to cry though, with thomas it felt like such an accomplishment when he eventually went to sleep in his cot, this time I just feel so bad for lettign her cry for 1 hr and she was just beside herself.

Ok so she had her bottle, I put her down she lay quietly for a bit then started fussing which turned into crying, I stood up PD and told her to go to sleep, she cried unimpressed then I just kept repeating shhh go to sleep whislt standing over the cot and she got more and more mad thorwing her pacis at me.

After 1 hr (i really didn't want to PU as i dreaded the pd part!) i just sat back and let her cry for about 5 mins (actually i think it felt that long to me but it wasn't) then stood up  replugged layed her down and kept my ahdn on her back.....


Why does this not feel like an acheivement??? I feel as though she has passed out angry and upset with me and now when she wakes and is not in the same room as me she's going to feel abandoned....

DD is so attached to me, I thought this whole training would help that too but now I wonder whether it'll just make it worse, whether she's going to feel so let down y me?????


arrgh someone tell me after a few days she'll forget I used to rock her to sleep and she'll be ok with this!!!
In all honesty I am happy to be staying in the room with her for a while, as the AP was so engrained I think it woul dbe harsh to do wi<wo


Opinions? feedback?
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Re: sleeper training diary, support pls? OMG I forgot it was so hard
« Reply #13 on: August 22, 2008, 19:54:55 pm »
Michelle, I think whatever you decide, you need to stick with it for at least a week, otherwise she'll be confused and will know when you cave in. SO, start as you mean to go on.

P.S. I didn't hear the crying from here so it can't have been that bad ;)
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Re: sleeper training diary, support pls? OMG I forgot it was so hard
« Reply #14 on: August 22, 2008, 19:59:42 pm »
nooooooooooo i wanted you to say, STOP now!
Oh dear do you tihnk it's a success if she's gone to sleep on her own even if she has passed by all effects and with my hand on her back, geez why can't there be a way without the screaming
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