these naps are just wearing me down

[*Becky*]

he did 11am nap and she slept 2 hours....he thinks. Heard a cry after 1.25 but she was then quiet until 1pm.

I do think we are in a bit of an OT/UT loop. She handled the A time to the nap fine after the short night and thinking about it night before last was a great night, then 1.5 nap yesterday so way over the normal amount of sleep she usually gets.

I think BT needs pushing back and nap really but think we will focus on BT first...set at 6.30pm and then aim to be at 7pm within a couple of weeks. That will allow for some shorter nights.

Plan?

[Truly Blessed]

That sounds like a plan to me Hun. It is quite conclusive that she slept a 2 hour nap after shorter night, I honestly think she is getting enough sleep, but it just needs re-arranging a little. Chin up, remember how much worse things were not so long ago.

x.

[*Becky*]

how long do you think we should keep to 6.30pm BT and can we move by 15 mins or does it have to be 5 min increments? I just know she is not consistent yk so trying to move things tiny bit by tiny bit may end up being very frustrating!

[Truly Blessed]

Honestly Hun, IIW Sam I would make a straight jump to the desired BT, but I know he would handle it. IMHO because things are better now than they have been in sometimes, IIWY I would be worried to make any sudden moves on her and nudge by 5 mins at a time. But you know her best, if you think she can handle it then just go for it! x.

[C&B&E]

IMHO because things are better now than they have been in sometimes, IIWY I would be worried to make any sudden moves on her and nudge by 5 mins at a time.

I would say the same x

[*Becky*]

no probs, will go 5 mins every 3 days. Going to do 6.30pm for a few nights anyway before we do anything.

IMHO because things are better now than they have been in sometimes

in what way? I feel like the 5.145am start today was worse than ever...normally she goes back to sleep if she wakes THAT early....

[*Becky*]

not good....crying after being in bed an hour. That MUST be OT.

Jeez, help us though this. I actually cannot formulate a plan anymore, I feel we are just floundering.

[Truly Blessed]

Hi Sweetie,

Honey I think you are most probably exhausted and finding it difficult to see any positives right now. Just a few short weeks ago a 1 nap routine was seemingly out of reach and for a long time you had no definite plan and MR had no consistent routine, and now she has. You are a Mother of 2 very little one's and as the Mammy of only 1 I can only imagine how hard that is. But honestly Hun, from an outsider looking in having followed MR's progress, I would say she is firmly on 1 nap right now. I know you want the WU later, of course you do, those early mornings are so harsh, but hand on heart I'm not sure I would try shifting anything right now. I wouldn't leave it as is forever, but if she is, as you say clocking up her maximum sleep as a rule, then maybe changing things up right now could backfire.

WRT the early start today, it happens to us all, yes she is probably OT but one bad day does not a disaster make  Just stick with 5.45 in the morning and EBT. Every day MR is resetting that clock just a tad more and I believe things will get better from here not worse. Just take a step back, take a deep breathe and give yourself some credit for how far she has come thanks to you coming out the other side of a very difficult and challenging time 

A (BIG HUG) from me. I hope you can see there is light shining brightly at the end of the tunnel 

x.

[*Becky*]

bad night with lots of restlessness. Gave meds at 3am and she is asleep still at 7am.

[*Becky*]

oh...and i appreciate your honesty Vicki. I can get too stressed out by sleep so just keep me in line

[Truly Blessed]

Despite the bad night, that late WU could give you the later BT you've been waiting for Becky! I hope you are able to stick with the 5.45 A time and push the day out.

Oh and I hear myself in you when you seem to be feeling hopeless, and for me that always comes from being very tired myself.  It sometimes takes another to point out any positives. Glad you didn't think 'Cheeky B**gar!' LOL   

x.

[*Becky*]

did 5.45 but she did a 1 hour nap - 12.45-1.45pm just less than. Hopeless!
She has a cold and a cough again. I am going to stick with 6.30pm BT though as DH has made me promise to just stick with that BT for a week although we were hoping it could be later with a later nap but no!

[katie80]

Hey Becky, didn't get on much over the weekend.  I agree with Vicki, she's so wise and I totally need that straight shooting when I'm unsure as well.  However, a lot of the sleep you're getting sounds like it's teeth or maybe the cold interrupting things too, so don't get too down on all the times.  There's only so much we can control (said just as much to myself as anyone else ).

We actually got a 7am wake-up on Saturday too, but of course it was after a 1.5hr NW.   Blasted canines!

[Truly Blessed]

However, a lot of the sleep you're getting sounds like it's teeth or maybe the cold interrupting things too

Totally agree, it just feel so unfair when you're making head way and then all of the coughs/colds and teething join the party  Do you think because she's UTW that 5.45 was too long for her Becky, and that's why she short napped 

x.

[*Becky*]

Do you think because she's UTW that 5.45 was too long for her Becky, and that's why she short napped 

totally but what do I do vicki? I am trying to stick with something and there are NO tired signs so it is so hard.
Bad night again. Slept well but was then awake pretty much from 3.50am. DH slept downstairs with her at 5.30am and she did go back to sleep at some point until 7am.
She is OT, I know that, I have known that since we started this 1 nap thing but I just don't know how to improve things.