Well after 13 hours of night sleep and two good naps yesterday, I fully expected Asher to wake at the crack of dawn this morning, but no! He slept in, 11.5 hours! Woot woot! DH even forgot to give him teething tablets before bed but I never heard a peep out of him ALL night (and started to fear the worst until I heard the bed rustle in the monitor :oops: ). Don't know what it is but I hope it lasts!!
Do they go through an 11 month GS?
:?: Did anyone start the early potty-training or still considering it? We're still deciding if we want to start at 12 months.
Deb, big hugs to you! My brother runs into the same problem with family since they're the only ones in CA. They want to stay home, but no one comes to them (guess everyone else wants to be home for Christmas too?). So they end up traveling nearly every Christmas. I feel so bad for them, but it seems like one of those sad realities of life. We lived in CA for 2 years and then moved back here. I hated the idea of never being at home for Christmas, but didn't want to be away from my family either. Frustrating situation!
And I must admit, I was one of those childless, obnoxious, clueless people a year ago! :oops: Oh, I THOUGHT I knew about child-rearing and what-not. I THOUGHT I was very sensitive to my parent friends and families' needs, but I literally had NO CLUE AT ALL! :lol: I was one of those annoying people who look at your screaming child in the restarant and ponder to myself, "I'll never let my child behave like that." I tried to be quiet when visiting their houses, but alas, I constantly forgot about "the baby is sleeping." I also thought to myself all the while, "I thought you shouldn't make the house quiet, they'll learn to sleep through it." I also always wondered why my best friends always declined going out to a restaurant with us even though we said they could bring the kids. I always wondered why they seemed to fall asleep at 9 pm like clockwork. Oh, the things I did and thought! :lol: I will never ever question another parents' kids out in public. After my sleep-sensitive DS, I will never balk at walking tiptoe around another's sleeping baby! I am a reformed clueless childless person! And I don't know what happens to make old people forget all these things either. My parents and grandparents are just as terrible as a childless person these days! I vow I will never forget! :lol: :lol:
Like Branwen said, I also think I'm a bit on the sensitive side when it comes to friends. I would feel a bit replaced as well. Do you feel comfortable enough with your BF that you can sit and have a heart to heart to clear the air? As a mother, I'm shocked that she didn't warn you about her DS's cough, but maybe she thought it was the tail end of a cold and he was already past the 5 day contageous period? Honestly, I don't think anything has an incubation period that short. I believe the shortest I've heard about is 24-48 hours. So it may just be a coincidence? Hope you're all feeling better quickly though!!
Branwen, my family belongs on Jerry Springer. After having no relationship with my mom for 7 years, we finally started making up a few months before I became PG. Things have greatly improved since. We have all finally figured out how to love them past the drama. When it starts (my mom is a drama queen at heart and LOVES to start it up), I quickly shut it down by either changing subjects, walking away, hanging up, or just flat out telling whoever "let's not go there." I hope to keep Asher out of the way of it and not to discuss it with him. Children have enough to deal with without having the burden of adult relationship trouble in their lives. If he wants to get in the middle of it when he's all grown up, fine. But in the meantime, we'll do our best to teach him that everyone's not perfect, even parents, and we love them despite their actions.
I can sympathize with you wanting your mom to get more involved in the holiday festivities. It seems like all the older folks around here have decided to opt out as well. It's as if they've "paid their dues" and now it's the "kids'" turns to host, cook, etc. I guess that comes with age? We've happily taken over though, to minimize the family drama that ensued when our parents were all responsbile for the holidays and to start new (and better!) traditions. And without knowing the background of your mom, I'm sensing hesitation on her part regarding Eirwen. Perhaps, since the relationship is still healing (?), she wants to make sure she doesn't step on any toes. And since you lived so far away before, perhaps she felt disconnected, as you said, and she needs a bit to get to know Eirwen and find her new place in your lives now that you're closer. I must admit, my parents are much closer and more comfortable with Asher that they are with my brother's DDs, though they wish it wasn't that way. It's just the proximity issue since he's in a different state. They see the girls 3x a year and they see Asher every two weeks! And my brother doesn't even have Drop Shots! :wink:
Whew! I talk too much! :oops: :lol:
