Extended Nursing Support Thread Part 5

[C&B&E]

^^ me too ladies.  I have really had enough now  .  She feeds first thing in the morning, before nap and at bedtime.  And often asks in between  .  But it's all the pulling and stroking and rooting about in my clothes that is bugging me  , and I really don't know how to wean her without it being traumatic (I do actually think it will be if I stop now ) for her. 

[*Ali*]

I've just asked DH to get the boys up tomorrow and we are planing to avoid the boob in the mornings now. I will deal with the other two feeds at a later date but at least we are heading the right way.

[amayzie]

Her DS hadly eats solid food at 21mo and is on the boob day night apparently and I think she likes to be seen as the martyr who is *still* having to feed a toddler. 

See- this is what people think of when they think of extended BFing...


Last night was my stories night and i'm happy to still feed him- but thought i'd try to ease him out of it and not remind him- so  on the way home i asked him all about what stories he wanted before bed.. you could almost see his little cogs turning in his head!! 'Milk first' .. Can't be tricked that easily!! We'll keep up the no milk with daddy though...

Bec- is L feeling better? Tummy bugs can be awful!!
 

[Khalam's Mama]

B is doing ok without his milk. He still insists on putting his hand on my boob when he previously would have asked for milk though even 2 m later. That can be embarrassing and I hope he stops soon.

[Erin M]

KM, James still likes to put his hand on my boob (on the outside of my shirt though) and he's been weaned for almost a year.  A friend of mine weaned her ds around 2 and he did that for awhile, then switched to putting his hand on his own "boob" then stopped that entirely.  I think some kids just like the way it feels. 

[~Carly~]

Hi ladies, I haven't been around much, but I am feeling a bit proud/sad that our breastfeeding relationship is over, so I thought I would stop by and mope a bit!  DS2 hasn't nursed for 4 days and has only 'asked' once, but was happy when I gave him his cup.  Hoped to go a bit longer, but this was a stress free self wean, so I am happy.

[Fiver]

Well done, Carly!

[becj86]

Bec, Would DH not even get up if you said it would help wean? He is desperate for you to wean isn't it?

He's pretty scarred from the 3hr screaming when he last did that He is keen on weaning though he's less desperate than he was.

He seems not to see that its easier if I'm not there squirting milk around the place because L's crying as well as saying no to feeding him.

Katy - yes, L seems better but now DH is in hospital with mysterious stomach pains, he is very clingy to me.

Glad your weaning is going smoothly, Carly

[amayzie]

Oh no!!

Well night 2 without milk before bed seems to be going ok- except that i think DS might have an ear trouble! Has been very unsettled!

[Solene]

I'm glad others have kids that put their hands on their boobs too!
I usually don't care, because mine has always been that way, and it isn't about the boob, it's about the skin contact. He does it to all the people he's closest too (men as well). But sometimes, in public, it drives me batty. And I'm sometimes afraid that removing his hand and telling him not to will make him feel rejected. What do you guys do?

[*Ali*]

Cadan still rests his hand on my chest when he wants comfort even now at 3.5yo and he weaned at 26mo. I don't do anything.
When Colby puts his hand down my top and even inside my bra I do take his hand out but I try to do it by manoeuvring him to a different position for a cuddle rather than just taking the hand away, yk?

[Khalam's Mama]

yes i do that. Although B did rip my top at a fair this weekend when i did that!!!

[Erin M]

Excellent job Carly!

[nona]

we are still nursing although part of me is ready to wean. i think i could do it pretty easily. at night she is obsessed with brushing her teeth and i can have DH put her down and in the morning and after nap i could give her milk instead right away. i dunno this is prob my last baby so i'm torn!

hoping for a stress free wean like carly

[amayzie]

Tell you what- that night feed's days are numbered!! I still will give him some molk on my story night if he asks- but honestly, he pops on there for about 10 seconds the first side- and often the same the second!! Sometimes he'll stick around for like 30 seconds on the second- but if ANYTHING distracts him he's DONE!! Not worth me taking my bra off for!! Oh- and whoever suggested the 'don't offer don't refuse' idea was clearly actualy a sneaky BF advocate... he never 'forgets' to ask!!