Ah, you're so welcome Hun, I just hope the advise helps!
He did wake at 5:30am screaming again. He resettled himself within 10 mins and was back to sleep so it wasn't a big deal but just curious if you think that could mean a little OT?
For us UT WU's weren't the more upset ones, they were calmer and more messing around. So upset WU's were always pain or OT, of course than can vary from child to child but as a general rule I would say this was true. I would say in this case that yes, more than likely an OT WU, especially as he resettled, which is rarely if never the case with an UT WU.
Also, you said if he's fighting BT it could mean OT is coming back again- how can I know if he's OT or UT at BT?
The million dollar question! If only we had a straight answer for this one
The things that can help you decide are, his mood and his sleepy signs. Plus as I said previously accumulated OT can still be present even though a LO can be UT for that day, does that make sense
If this is the case, then my way of dealing with it was to take a chance and put DS down a little early if he wasn't coping. Sometimes it would pay off, sometimes it wouldn't and he would just fight it. If your DS would fight it with upset then I would be a little wary, as that can make for a longer settling period, whereas DS would just be silly, and lie awake until the usual BT, as a rule, so it worth a punt.
But trust me there's not one of us out there that hasn't struggled with the UT/OT quandary so you're not alone!
Hope this helps Honey.
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