Support Thread for Understanding Shh Pat

[emuk00]

I spoke too soon

The problem is she needs her dummy and loses it hence wakes up for it, but I dont know how to take the dummy off her as she needs to suck something! I am going out of my mind now

[A pair of Charlies]

Might be worth popping over to Props?

We did have a dummy addiction and the replugging became a real issue - I think it was around 3m. I'd steered clear of ever using one and then within a few weeks of having been given it ( ), became an addict. I think sometimes they can't get back to sleep because that is how they got to sleep, and it's something they have no control over.

I did a PUPD thing to get over the dummy. I just had enough one morning and wouldn't give the dummy. Took ages for the first nap and I think DS got about 30mins sleep. Did the same at the next nap; I wouldn't give the dummy. The following nap was out in the pram so wasn't an issue. By bedtime I had already decided that I'd live with the dummy so when DS was laid down to go to sleep I gave him the dummy to suck. He sucked for a minute, spat it out and went to sleep. He never really took it again! He's always been defiant. 

Does that help?

[fionifelisa]

hi Charlotte, glad to know things are better for you. the past couple nights DS had woken every 3 hours. Im thinking a GS, or it could be that we change his bed time to around 7pm(used to 8:30-9:00pm).we'll see how it go in couple days. the sh/pat is going good. I don't actually shush him, I had a white noise CD going whenever he sleeps while I just pat him. I had successfully extended most of his naps(pop the paci back and maybe couple pats). the dummy is what Im worrying. at night he's not too bad. maybe have to replug couple times. but for every naps, DS wake at 45mins mark and wanted the paci back. I think I need to wean that bugger sooner or later. maybe once he's more used to independent sleep.

[emuk00]

Might be worth popping over to Props?

We did have a dummy addiction and the replugging became a real issue - I think it was around 3m. I'd steered clear of ever using one and then within a few weeks of having been given it ( ), became an addict. I think sometimes they can't get back to sleep because that is how they got to sleep, and it's something they have no control over.

I did a PUPD thing to get over the dummy. I just had enough one morning and wouldn't give the dummy. Took ages for the first nap and I think DS got about 30mins sleep. Did the same at the next nap; I wouldn't give the dummy. The following nap was out in the pram so wasn't an issue. By bedtime I had already decided that I'd live with the dummy so when DS was laid down to go to sleep I gave him the dummy to suck. He sucked for a minute, spat it out and went to sleep. He never really took it again! He's always been defiant. 

Does that help?

Thanks I will ask in props too, but maybe try that, did your LO just cry without the dummy while you were doing PUPD, i think with our other daughter I dont want to wake her at 3am, but I suppose we need to try. The thing is she needs to suck, she tries her fist, but cant do it, maybe because she is too young, we have also tried giving her a comfort blanket to no avail...may try the pupd in the day to start

I felt we were getting somewhere as she is now napping in crib, its just the dummy problem now..a.rggh

[Newmamma]

 I ve just recently read the book and LOVE it it makes sense.  Just started using EASY method with my 11wk old and wondering if I am doing the S right or not dont want to start her off on a bad habit. when I put her in the crib she will cry, I try using the pat and shh but she still cries so i will pick her up and when calm put her down after doing this 20-45 minutes... During this she ll start to whimper and has her eyes close I put her down after the whimpering stops but it seems as if she is almost asleep while holding her( Is this too late to lay her down, is this considered the start of stage 3). Then i put her in her crib she will  open and close her eyes 3-4x with the odd jolts here and there and I cont.d  patting her or sometimes  just putting my hand on her belly and off to dreamland she goes. Am I teaching her to sleep in my arms still or am I putting her down at the right stage of sleep that the BW talks about. Its abit confusing during her cry to whimper phase I m not sure if they are two seperate things or 1 in the same,... So am i correct to assume that she is not yet calm while she whimpers!!! ( ALMOST as if she fights to not SLEEP)       

[Peek-a-boo]

Hi Newmama--I see you have another thread with this same question and it looks like your getting great advice there.  {{Hugs}}  It can be tough getting started, but it's so worthwhile in the end.