I do offer boob again after 15-30 mins, but she's never interested, just cries when I bring her to the breast.
Would she ever latch on her own given the chance? I know if I have a shower and I pick DS up without a bra on, he bends down and latches of his own accord... I do think this may change a little once she's not taking as much at night too.
Agree maybe she will take more once she's not feeding at night but I think the not feeding at night will have to come first. She's either interested or she's not, and when she's not, she gets really cross with me. If I happen to be hanging about naked maybe... but that doesn't happen very often
I always try to resettle at night if it has been less than 4 hours since the last feed, but she's so noisy that if she doesn't settle quickly (like within 10-15mins) I have to feed her so she doesn't wake up Stan.
Is it possible to send DH and DS off to a grandparents/friends place or off camping or something for a few nights so you're not having to feed if she won't settle?
Can't happen really. They don't have anywhere to go, it's not camping weather, DH usually has to work at least some of the time at weekends. Stan has had sleepovers at granny's but never more than one night and I don't think he's old enough, he would miss me.
In Audrey's defence though, it is rare that I feed her before 4 hours. Most often it is four hours + it is just that there are additional wakenings in between times so even with two feeds at night I am often going in to her 3 or 4 times. So for example she will feed at 10, wake up at 1, be resettled, and then wake up again at 4 - which tells me she wasn't even really hungry at 1.
If I set Stan up in my room with ear defenders, and DH on the couch - or DH and Stan in our bed and me on Stan's bed in the room with Audrey - I think that might work.