Horrendous long NW with baby trying to crawl

[weaver]

Big hugs Sara.  I really don't know, I'm sorry.  Crazy crazy babies.

[katie80]

Oh (((hugs))) Sara, it sounds like he's uncomfortable. Wish I could give you a break.

[lily_layne]

((((hugs))))

[*Ali*]

Hugs. That does sound disheartening. Poor T and poor you.

Are you still giving the lactulose?

[ZacsMumme]

Yes still giving it
Night was terrible. Finally asleep at 12am
But then awake at 3 30 hollering so I fed him.
Then 5.30 then up at 6.45

Surely this isn't just developmental?
I don't know what to do

[lily_layne]

To me it sounds like he might be in discomfort. 
Any chance that it's a wonder week?

[ZacsMumme]

Wonder week supposedly over, we gave pain meds and terthing gel and his room was the right temp so not hot or cold

His cry is throaty but nothing else to indicate he is still sick. His reflux is fine too..... .

[katie80]

I guess it was the hard poop in the middle of it that made me think his tummy might be hurting. (((Hugs))), hon.

[ZacsMumme]

Oh I agree Katie, I think he may have had problems till then, but would that make the rest of the night awful too? Probably I guess! he's doing these hard poops 1-2 times a day though which is a massive improvement on 1-2 times a week YK?

The only solids he is on is pear, pumpkin, chicken broth and prunes now all safe foods for him. Hs fussy on the bottle again but that's nothing new he does have 3 meals, I cold cut back but he's also hungry and we have frequent milk refusals when he has less solids because the reflux flares?

DH and I are starting to get so tired were feeling resentful which is not good or fair on T, but I dont know how to fix it. DH thinks there is something up (and I don't disagree) but we can't go on like this. He is an IS 1/2 time. He doesn't want to be held but after hours of not settling he's to OT to settle in the cot so DH has to rock him or there is literally no sleep.

[*Ali*]

Should his poops still be hard on the lactulose? Have you spoken to the dr about trying a different dose or med?

[ZacsMumme]

She just said to hkeep increasing it till he is regular I've breaded it s bit but given he is going every day now I think I'll be dismissed. He they are reluctant to give too much for babies like him with so much else going on YK?

But, what if I only give him small meals today, all pear. I'm hoping maybe if he has any tummy issues this may clear them out.

One other thought/question to you ladies. Could he be in bed too long at night and in a bit of a silly cycle. Sometimes he does 12 hrs but then isn't tired during the day, other nights he is up and down a lot but then naps better. I wonder if he needs help balancing himself for day and night. So a longer day, or set naps ?

[*Ali*]

Our dr told me not to worry about *frequency* of poops but that the aim was to get him going *comfortably*. It is not good for their bowel to have big, hard poops in and can cause stretching over time which means the bowel will then need to be retrained. Plus if he is up all night in pain I don't see how she could possibly dismiss you tbh.

Maybe try longer A times when he has had a good night?

[ZacsMumme]

Thanks Hun, I think ill take him to the dr Monday anyway, ask her to check, his ears, throat, chest (he is often chesty and wheezy and I wonder about asthma) and go over the poop thing. She is a wonderful dr, I just know she is also reluctant to give him too much more stuff because of his sensitive tummy. His bottle fussiness again makes me wonder if he is backed up even though he is going regularly YK?

Dare I mention this - but I'm wondering if he may be better with a 2-3-4 Even after that 50 min pm nap yesterday he settled well last night on his own and didn't show any OT signs.

[Mummy23boys]

Sara just want to send you some giant hugs 💕 My C is doing the exact same thing you mention at the start of your thread when we put him down for his naps and BT. Although he isn't sick like poor little T. Maybe he's going through this development stuff as well as being sick. Ah the poor little mite. It's so tough on them. I'm sure your doc will sort him out. It's frustrating and exhausting but it will pass. You are doing an amazing job. All we can do is our best, right? Can you believe in another 6 months they will be 1?!

Get well soon little T (and please give mummy and daddy some sleepy time)
Here to hold your hand ❤❤

[lily_layne]

Dare I mention this - but I'm wondering if he may be better with a 2-3-4 

This is what worked best for us 2 months ago.  I could also stretch her day a bit by letting her play alone in her crib when she woke up from naps - it really helped get her through to BT if she had a short pm nap.

Could he eat barley cereal?  That really helped DD when she got constipated.

I'm sending you so many hugs and sleep well vibes for T.  I understand the feelings of resentment - sometimes parenting is just hard.