Thanks so much, ladies. He was up again from 4:38-5:57 and then slept til 6:30. I was glad he went back to sleep, but it's such a long time to be awake. Hes definitely OT, so that isn't helping, and I can only do bedtime so early on some nights.
Feeling sorry for myself today and in tears because nothing I do seems right with this little guy.
I'm afraid I've now created a hand prop. When I settle at night, I go in and lay on the floor and rest my hand on the crib mattress through the bars. I've done this for awhile, even when I still had the feeds and resettled early NWs. It also helps to resettle during naps. This week, when he's had the looong NWs, I've also sometimes ended up rubbing his back. Yesterday and today, he wouldn't settle independently for his nap. Yesterday, I figured he was OT (he'd been up on and off since 4:something), and slept 20min in the car around 9:30. He got quite upset when I put him down again around 1, so I ended up staying with him with my hand in the crib. I'm sure he's still OT today (tried for nap at 12pm), and he cried when I left. I did WIWO for 40min and he didn't go down. I could tell he wanted me to put my hand in the crib.
We took a break, so I could feed G lunch and then tried again at 1. It took 40min of WIWO, but he did go down.
So, what do I do now? Remove my hand when I settle at night and only lay on the floor? Can I still resettle naps that way? Should I start a different thread for prop help? Sorry, I'm tired and frustrated.