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Re: Should I allow a longer nap for ew
« Reply #150 on: May 14, 2018, 15:11:06 pm »
Sometimes the 20 min nap can be a life saver and not affect the night, so you could try it!?
Oh dear youíll have to chat about what time and stick to it x
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Re: Should I allow a longer nap for ew
« Reply #151 on: May 14, 2018, 18:21:16 pm »
Heís a typical bloke something, yet sometimes amazing 🙄
I donít think they always think about consequences like mums do cos predominantly itís us mummyís that pick up the pieces!
Iím quite sensitive at the minute as Iím not the greatest sleeper and when my anxiety increases it gets worse so Iím generally more knackered than usual. Add into the equation a grumpy nap dropping toddler and Iím a bit of a mess. To add fuel to the fire, hubby plays the feeling unloved card and, apologies for tmi but he gets a bit frisky and Iím like, for .... sake, leave me alone 🤦‍♀️😂
Sometimes I just want to escape for some major me time tic 😂

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Re: Should I allow a longer nap for ew
« Reply #152 on: May 14, 2018, 21:07:04 pm »
Oooh ha ha these frisky men....timing off!

Get yourself booked in for massage or hair or something you like or even just to a cake shop for cuppa and cake x
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Re: Should I allow a longer nap for ew
« Reply #153 on: May 15, 2018, 06:37:49 am »
Iíve got a spa weekend booked in with my friends in June and I canít wait!!
Iíve decided that the video monitor is my enemy and is fuelling my anxiety, I was becoming fixated on what time she opened her eyes so I was waking earlier and earlier with anxiety.
Last night I used my hypnosis sleep app and when I woke at stupid oíclock, instead of looking at her I put my app back on and it seemed to settle me again. I woke less anxious at 6:30, then I checked her. She was awake but I think sheís getting on average 11 hours overnight and apart from the off moments in the day, she seems to be coping ok.
The problem we have, which I may have already said, as our conversation is so long now (thanks again x), is that she can be awake but quiet in her bed and we wouldnít know. What did parents do before cameras?!!! 😳 they were probably less anxious!!!

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Re: Should I allow a longer nap for ew
« Reply #154 on: May 15, 2018, 06:42:01 am »
I also bit the bullet and ditched the gro blind!! Iíve swapped the blind slats for blackout ones but not as dark as with the gro blind but I figured she was awake in the pitch dark so at least now we can ventilate the room and also open her blinds in a morning. The sun comes up at the back of the house so into our room not hers. On the occasions she has been in with us the light has never bothered her if sheís tired enough and again, I think the blind was part of my anxiety which I need to manage 🤦‍♀️

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Re: Should I allow a longer nap for ew
« Reply #155 on: May 15, 2018, 15:30:09 pm »
I never did have a video monitor as felt Iíd be fixated on it, we have a standard one so I just go with if heís quiet heís asleep or resting. Maybe itís time to swap the monitor? Or once your in bed turn it off if you can hear her!?

Very jealous of your spa weekend x
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Re: Should I allow a longer nap for ew
« Reply #156 on: May 15, 2018, 16:13:59 pm »
I know I need to ditch it really. Not good for me 🤦‍♀️

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Re: Should I allow a longer nap for ew
« Reply #157 on: May 15, 2018, 18:17:26 pm »
She came home from Nursery in a really good mood tonight. I had time to chat with her key worker before we had to come home so I asked her how things were without the nap. She told me they donít encourage her to lie with the others anymore, after the nightmare nap at nannas last week 😳
After last NCL when the others go to lie down, the no nappers go to the reading corner whilst the staff clear up and then they just carry on their day. She told me my littly knows the routine now and takes herself off to read then will play happily all day. Sheís had the best bath/bedtime so far. Fingers crossed sheís starting to cope with it now x

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Re: Should I allow a longer nap for ew
« Reply #158 on: May 15, 2018, 18:54:56 pm »
Awhh nice update hope the nights good too x
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Re: Should I allow a longer nap for ew
« Reply #159 on: May 15, 2018, 19:47:28 pm »
Thanks x

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Re: Should I allow a longer nap for ew
« Reply #160 on: May 16, 2018, 18:12:35 pm »
Zoe you will be very proud of me. Last 2 mornings I have stopped myself checking the monitor!! 🙈😳
This morning I even managed to settle back off to sleep after my toilet visit around 5 and slept in!!
Normally I would not go for a wee then incase I disturb her but I did and didnít check on her either, just got back into bed and went back to sleep. It wasnít easy and took a bit, but I obviously did as I then woke a little after 7!!
Littly was in a good mood so I presume well rested.

Weíve also had an uneventful nanna day today and only a minor issue getting out of the bath because she didnít want to, but sheís settled straight to sleep x
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Re: Should I allow a longer nap for ew
« Reply #161 on: May 16, 2018, 19:55:35 pm »
Awhh well done you, so happy for you. I guess you know sheís ok in there so you can go back and relax 😊x
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Re: Should I allow a longer nap for ew
« Reply #162 on: May 16, 2018, 20:30:47 pm »
Deep down I know the reality is I canít really do anything to make her sleep longer so whatís the point in me losing sleep if sheís quiet and in her room? 🤦‍♀️

Knowing this is the easy part, trusting what I know is the hard part that fuels my anxiety. It takes a great deal of mental control to stop looking on the monitor but I know I can do it. I just have wobbles sometimes. I guess maybe this is something I have to live with now but I can manage it better these days. One time I was medicated but I donít want to go back there so I make myself deal with it x

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Re: Should I allow a longer nap for ew
« Reply #163 on: May 17, 2018, 06:00:02 am »
I honestly would replace the monitor or switch it off at night if sheís near enough. Iíd hear both my kids Iíd they were upset at night.

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Re: Should I allow a longer nap for ew
« Reply #164 on: May 17, 2018, 18:07:38 pm »
Iím working on it 😉