Rina - DD is not at daycare these days for more than 2 hours with DH's new job BUT thre was a time when she was 10m or so that she was there 7-noon and we needed her to take her AM nap there....and as you said, it was a fight for her. The biggest problem was that she was JUST TOO EXCITED to slow down and sleep - she wanted to play - who can blame her. Quinn used to nap at 8:30 - 10 at HOME and at DC she wouldnt even think about it until 10 or so. Sometimes it was long, others not. It WAS challenging and sometimes she just ended up coming home at noon and taking a long nap - and she survived! There were times, I would take her for a 20 min drive if she looked tired and that was OK. YOu can definitly continue to do both one nap at daycare and two at home if you want.......follow her cues and when she does make the transition, I bet it will be that much easier. We needed the 2-1 switch when I started noticing that she was STILL asleep when I got home from work - ansd she'd ne "napping" until 5pm! (yikes) Anyway - her AM nap slowly crept back an hour and then everything shifted back, she stayed up longer between naps nad the real bad part that added to the whole mess was that she was staying up late and napping a total of 4 hours in the day. THAT was how we saw we needed one nap - the 2nd one was happening way too late - use that as a guide. If you can't get 2 in before 3:30 - consider one.
Becky - Here are my thoughts. I dont think WI/WO or PUPD makes the cut when we have a prop issue. The poor kids have been so used to what we have been doing and all of a sudden we start walking in and out - it seems like tourture and it was to Quinn, she howled. I think it can work once you have substituted the prop for words that can be used with or in place of the other 2.
As I mentioned, definitly go for dropping the props. I had a prop with the bottle and I used to get into her crib to cuddle with her
(awful I know, I know). Whe we had a few NW's and when the schedule was FINALLY OK....I started to address the crib crawling in of mine first (as you read on the long post). For you and Owen, I think I'd attempt the swaddle first. For a few nights, continue to do what you have been doing with the swaddle and the bottle and ADD a calming phrase...whatever you want (make it easy to say, I swear, mine does not have "flow" and at 3am - tounge twisters suck!) Swaddle him and say it over and over, give him a bottle and say it. After a few nights, just cover him with the swaddle blanket and feed...say the calm phrase as much as you can.....hypnotism perhaps? Anyway.....IF that works and he can go no swaddle - then try and get off the bottle (did I mention the whole process for me was SIXTY days) - I swear I keep mentioning that cause so often I read about and wanted a quick fix - not happenin'. Anyhoo - Next get the bottle to be gone. Now, I personally revisited the dream feed - and lots of people said it would wake her and disrupt her sleep (what sleep?) - and I did it. Doing the DF gave me the confidence to stop feeding her - she was NOT hungry. You can see that I recently made the decision not to feed her (10 days ago) when by situation, she had a bottle at 10:30ish and STILL woke at 5 - it told me for 100% sure, this was something else - my little monster I created.....so thats the day we stopped. So I'd get rid of the swaddle and then the bottle. I'd introdce a DF and maybe even sleep in his room a few nights. If you have a calming phrase for him you can say it from the floor of his room...thats what I did with Quinn - I'd always say it, I say it now, all he time....and it is different that what I used to and still say to her at night.......lets get started on the swaddle and see wat happens....if that is already gone, lets go for the bottle.
I tell ya' making the DECISION to stop doing all of the crazy stuff was the PEACEFUL turning point. It all starts with confidence that we can do it and they can tooo....he can do it.....you just have to help him bridge that place whenre the swaddle and the bottle were and WIWO/PUPD are not substitutes for a prop...they are good for sure, but not as substitutes for a warm swaddle and bottle......do that slow.....
ready set go.....post back
Stacey