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Re: just can't get it right - part 3!
« Reply #255 on: June 13, 2009, 13:37:37 pm »
I survived last night at work.  Actually wasn't too bad!  Had a good medical that needed to transfer out to a different hospital (way too complex to stay at our community hospital) so got to fly him out!  Wasn't exactly the flight I was hoping for but it got me out and about!

I made DH get up with H this morning and I slept!  Oh, how lovely it felt! 


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Re: just can't get it right - part 3!
« Reply #256 on: June 13, 2009, 13:40:31 pm »
Yes yes yes!!  Here we are, I am so excited!

Congrats J on STTN!  Now, send some of that over all our ways!   ;)  Actually, our night was best it has been in awhile, only one brief NW to feed between 7-6:20.  I think I'm going to start pushing that feed closer and closer to the morning and in the next week eliminate it altogether, and in theory Tristan should start sleeping through.  He's definitely been sleeping much better though, that's for sure!   :D

About my mom, it is a very long story and the roots of how I feel about her start even as a child.  She thinks I'm just this mean, horrible daughter who's never been supportive and all she's done is tried her best, but I don't feel that way at all.  I don't remember the good things about her, only the negative.  She has always been depressed and very very selfish.  She was unhappy being married to by dad very early on I know, but failed to do anything about it and so harboured all this resentment towards him for living his life when she was content to just sit and home sulking and feeling sorry for herself.  When he finally gave up on the marriage, she criticized him for moving on when all along it was her who said she wanted out.  After she left, he paid for her condo, made sure she was all set to go, no debts, new start, etc.  Well, she gambled everything, remortgaged her place, gambled all that away and when she was out of money went after my dad, took him to court claiming he owed her all this money.  It was a very stressful time.  Both of them kept pulling me and my brother in opposite directions, trying to get us to testify that the other was a bad parent.  No one was right, everybody lost.  

Well, my dad and myself have done the best to move on, learn from our mistakes and look to the future.  My brother obviously still has many demons, because he was younger than me I think a lot of his childhood and teenage years got ignored when my parents dove headfirst into their own problems, and he was left to his own devices, never really having any proper role models and now the consequences are apparent.  But my mom lives in the past, is continually pointing fingers, name calling and playing the victim, when ultimately she was the biggest culprit.

Oh, sorry to go on again!  :(

Our day is going ok so far, just put Tristan down for his am nap so we'll see how it goes.  Saturdays are tricky because DH is here kinda putting a kink in the routine.  

He's not doing well with his purees again, but still enjoying finger foods.  I'm sure it's just a phase, at least I hope so!

So good to be back!  :)
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Re: just can't get it right - part 3!
« Reply #257 on: June 13, 2009, 13:41:15 pm »
BTW - I'm sorry!  I shouldn't be ranting and raving about this crap now that BW's back!!

HOORAY!!! :) :) :)
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Re: just can't get it right - part 3!
« Reply #258 on: June 13, 2009, 15:06:30 pm »
Well - I was all set to join you guys on FB after "friend-ing" Alyssa - and then just logged on to find out BW is back on!!!  WOO-HOO!!!  Thought I was going to wither up and die there for awhile...

As I was telling Alyssa, I've been reading your posts here occasionally because a) you all sound like fascinating people :) and b) your LOs are just a bit ahead of mine so it's fun to see what's coming up in our future... Anyways - she told me to stop lurking in the corner - hee, hee - and join you all, so here I am..

So I'm Aimee - mom to almost-8-mo-old Liana, my txtbk/angel baby..  p/t high school teacher, living in So CA and trying to figure out this whole parenting thing!

Gotta go get breakfast for L - trying potatoes today! - and then get off to church so better run.. ttfn!

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Re: just can't get it right - part 3!
« Reply #259 on: June 13, 2009, 15:46:39 pm »
Welcome Aimee!  Glad you decided to stop lurking and join the fun!  :D 

Ok, tell me what you guys think about this.  Past 2 or 3 days H has napped 10:30-12 and 3:30-4:45.  Yesterday actually had to wake him from the pm nap!!  :o  Going down very easily, is asleep in 5 minutes.  Last night put H down about 7:35/7:40 and the night before did the same and he rolled around and got comfy and was off to dreamy land in 5-10 min.  But, last night fussing kept going and I had to go back in to reassure about 7:48ish and then went off to dreamy land about 7:50/55ish.  I left for work and DH said H woke up and cried out twice before 10pm.  Then about 11ish (or sometime around there) said he woke up and H was sitting up in bed, trying to stand, rolling around, tossing lovey...but never cried or anything and then went back to sleep.  H woke again about 6ish and crawled around for a while, never cried out...but went back to sleep and DH got up at 7:15 (he slept in  >:( ) and had to wake H.  Does that sound like developmental disturbances, OT, or UT???  H went down for am nap at 10:45 (3.5 hrs after wake up as had been doing) and we're coming up on 1 hr.  Has been in a SUPER mood this am.  Had NO meltdowns with DH this am..I actually got to come home and get some sleep!  What's your impression??  ???

Martina, so sorry about all the troubles you are having with your mom  :'( :'(  :-* It's not fair that she has put you in that position.  IMO you have EVERY right to feel how you do.  You are blessed to have Tyler and his support and he and Tristan are your family now and that's what is most important.  But, I do know how hard it is to come to terms with your own family and move on from that.  We are always here to listen, to ((((HUGS))))), to support you...so you vent away anytime you need!  :-* :-* :-*

Liz, WOOOOOOHOOOOOOOOO J!!!!  Way to go!!!  See, when the lo's are ready to STTN they will!!  Must be all the milk he's getting during the day is really making a difference. I hope you were able to get some rest and enjoy it!  Hope all goes well with the family get together today. 

Clare, how are things on your end?  Sorry about E teething again  :'( These poor lo's never get a break  :-[  Did you post that video of M and E playing together??  It must be so precious to see that and make your heart melt!  Hopefully they'll be close friends growing up, too. Weather isn't great here...chilly and rainy and overcast.  We're trying to decide what to do this afternoon.  May go look at 2 more parade homes or just stay in.  MIL and FIL want to take us to dinner tonight so maybe it'd be best we make sure H gets a good pm nap!

Hope all is well across the miles!  Happy Saturday!  :D


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Re: just can't get it right - part 3!
« Reply #260 on: June 13, 2009, 15:59:26 pm »
Alyssa - we've had nights like that where Tristan just can't seem to get comfy or is really restless.  I really think it's teeth, as it's probably enough to cause a dull, annoying pain that never really goes away, but sometimes flares up causing more serious pain (hence the random screaming fits).  The waking up, sitting and crawling sounds developmental, but maybe too he's just not as tired as he should be?  I'm not good with this EASY stuff, but maybe cut down day sleep a little more?  I think Liz and Clare will probably have better ideas!!

Welcome Aimee!   :)  It's always exciting when new people join!  I hope you'll find some great help and support here! 

Well, our am nap was ok.  Woke after 30mins, took a few mins to go back to sleep, slept for another 30mins.  So an hour or so, not great but not horrible either.  We're working on it!
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Re: just can't get it right - part 3!
« Reply #261 on: June 13, 2009, 17:53:15 pm »
Hi Aimee - welcome to the thread.  Hope you find some good advice here - it has helped me (and I think everyone else) loads just having a place to talk through what's going on.

Alyssa - it sounds a bit to me like developmental waking.  If he's not unhappy and just moseying around his cot it's probably so that he can practice his exciting new skills.  If he is putting himself back to sleep and in a good mood in the morning, then it's probably worth just leaving him be - he'll get bored eventually and stop trying to practise in the night.

M and E have been playing together quite a lot today - it really does make your heart melt (until one of them thumps the other... ::)).  I haven't been able to upload the video yet - way beyond my technical skills! - but I'll ask dh if he can do it.

(((hugs))) Martina - hope you are managing not to dwell too much on the situation with your mom.  Fingers crossed for a good pm nap.

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Re: just can't get it right - part 3!
« Reply #262 on: June 13, 2009, 19:18:26 pm »
Well, we decided to skip church today *gasp*  ;D, based on some pretty flimsy reasons, such as - it's cold outside and L woke up too early.  Hee, hee.  Heathens, I tell you...

It IS cold outside, though... now granted, I'm a born and raised Californian, so those of you who live in snowy lands will have to excuse the rest of this paragraph - but goodness - I know there's "June gloom", but it's like SIXTY out there.  Ridiculous for summer weather.  Humph.  We're going to GA in a few days, though, and I hear it's 97 there with about the same in humidity.  Yikes. 

L woke up at 6 a.m. and snuffled around for a half hour, then started fussing... I went in and brought her to our bed and tried to get her back to sleep... was somewhat successful until about 6:50 a.m., at which pt she started fighting me.  Ugh.  Anyways - just woke up from 1 hr 25 min nap - am not sure what that's about... maybe OT, I guess...

L's little tooth is still making it's way up...it's kinda cute, this first little guy...she's probably tired of me prying open her mouth and peering in with a flashlight.  Although she does like to eat the flashlight.

Anyways - off for an afternoon adventure... maybe a hike or a bike ride..






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Re: just can't get it right - part 3!
« Reply #263 on: June 13, 2009, 19:48:07 pm »
I'm the master of the flimsy excuse for not going to church!  At the moment the service time just doesn't fit with the girls' mealtime so we don't go very often - I keep insisting that we will go when they are older and not needing to nap.  Hope the tooth comes through quickly - E hates it when I look in her mouth, clamps her mouth shut and turns her head away.  M never like it much but she was never as determined to keep me out.  I'm pretty sure there are another couple of teeth coming, but I can't quite see them yet.

M went to sleep much more quickly this evening.  dh redid the blackout in her room so it is properly dark again.  I'm hoping that it will help get her back on track.

We are trying to get some photos together so that we can do photo books for the grandparents as momentoes of the christening.  The tricky thing is that we have photos in about 5 different places so we are having quite a job pulling them all together.  It's the sort of thing that sounds really fun until you actually have to knuckle down and do it and then it is a pain in the butt!

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Re: just can't get it right - part 3!
« Reply #264 on: June 13, 2009, 19:59:20 pm »
Clare, I know what you mean about messing around with photos sounding fun, but it really isn't!  I did photos one year for Christmas, and after that I swore I'd never do it again!  lol

Tristan doesn't like me poking around his mouth either, he's very guarded.  So it's hard for me to tell what the status of the next tooth is, I only get little peeks!  Just getting ready to cut it looks like, although it's looked like that for days now.   ::)  Soon I'm sure!

Aimee, whereabouts in California are you from?  I'm from Toronto but DH's family is from California, we were there at Christmas.  Mostly Pomona, but I have been several times and to all sorts of different places.  Love it!  DH is always saying let's move out there (personally I think he just wants to eat In and Out everyday!  lol).  Oh it would be such a lovely place to live, but I don't think I could give up snowy Canadian winters no matter how long and cold they are!   :)

Our pm nap was 1hr 10mins, getting better!   ;D  Just spent some time steaming some veggie sticks for Tristan.  Seems like all he wants these days is finger foods, so I'm making a whole bunch for him.  Will make more later, now time for a walk!

Have a great afternoon/evening!  :)
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Re: just can't get it right - part 3!
« Reply #265 on: June 13, 2009, 21:01:28 pm »
Martina - I'm about 1.25 hr away from Pomona - about an hr outside of LA... Ventura County, more specifically...We just had In-n-Out last night - lol!

Do you freeze the veggie sticks after you make a whole bunch?  And if so, do they come out all right when you defrost them?  I usually give L a couple of finger-food type things after her purees and she loves feeding herself.. But I've only done sweet potato sticks so far - as far as veggies go - but lots of fruit "sticks". 

Just came back from a walk and tried to put L down a little earlier... but from the looks of it (monitor) she's not having anything to do with it...  she does NOT like her A time to be shortened - no matter how short the nap is...

Clare - how old are your girls?  That is one thing I hate about digital pics - I NEVER get around to printing any of them so it's always this major ordeal whenever a project arises... Although since getting a macbook, I now have them all right HERE.  Which, of course, breeds other problems if ever the computer crashes!!!

Oh dear - nap not getting any better... must run..

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Re: just can't get it right - part 3!
« Reply #266 on: June 13, 2009, 21:49:49 pm »
lol - as long as DH and I have been together he has been RANTING AND RAVING about In and Out.  So finally at Christmas when were there I got to try it.  It was good, but maybe because I'm not a burger conisseur or anything I didn't see why it was the best.  However for months after that I craved burgers!  (which never happened before!)  DH maintains it was because of the In and Out.   ::)  We were there less than a week and had it THREE times!!   :o And he wonders why he was digestive problems!  I'm sure we'll be back in Cali to visit the fam again one day, I'll have to let you know when I'm there!  :)

What I do with the veggies is freeze them on baking trays so they don't get stuck together, then transfer them to freezer bags.  I don't have any problems defrosting them, just put them in a container the night before to thaw in the fridge.  Depending on how well I cooked them, they may get a little soggy when thawed, but Tristan doesn't mind!  If you were taking them straight out of the freezer you could drop them in boiling water too.  Or sometimes I just give him them still frozen, he likes that too especially if he's teething.

I just made carrots, parsnips, zucchini, summer squash and broccoli.  Now to figure out where I'm going to have the space to freeze it all!  Gave Tristan a whole bunch at dinner and he really enjoyed it, so I think more finger foods will be a hit!

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Re: just can't get it right - part 3!
« Reply #267 on: June 13, 2009, 21:59:45 pm »
Do you also cook them sliced up already?  Or cook whole first, then slice?  Freeze on trays first - brilliant. 

LOL about the In-N-Out three times in a wk!!!  I became a vegetarian more or less after marrying DH (he was born and raised veggie and it was just easier for me to cook the same for both of us...) and didn't really think I'd miss anything EXCEPT IN-N-OUT BURGERS!!  Oh well, you can get grilled cheeses there and they suffice!

Yes, yes! - the next time you come down here!!! - I often get rather wistful browsing some of the get-together posts of the UK folk... I have yet to meet a BW from the west coast! 

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« Reply #268 on: June 13, 2009, 22:17:29 pm »
I cut them up first them steam them in my bamboo steamer - it works great and it's really quick and easy!

Well, think of us as 'honorary' west coasters!  Ha ha!!  Especially DH (I just tag along!).  For sure we'll give you a shout, maybe next year we'll get to go again!  Like I said I love California, so many beautiful places to see and you can't beat the weather!
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Re: just can't get it right - part 3!
« Reply #269 on: June 13, 2009, 23:18:49 pm »
ok so we're having a very bad afternoon/evening  :'( :'( :'(  We went to some parade homes and H did wonderfully...got fussy on the way home and got home right at 3:30 in time for a sippy but not a snack, wouldn't eat.  Put down at 3:45 (a little late, maybe 5 min) and just cried and cried...wouldn't settle...tried wiwo...didn't work...lost my cool...screaming began....finally took H to my bed and laid down and held him until he fell asleep about 4:10...we slept until 5:05  :o Oops...making for a bad evening.  Went out to diner...bless H, did WONDERFUL!  Sat on my lap and ate his dinner and I ate mine.  Loves to people watch just like me!  Started fussing on the way home.  Dh is up giving bath.  So, looks like an 8pm bedtime (oh that's late) so who knows what that means for tonight.  DH and I are going to some friends house for his 40th b-day (he's one of the captains on the department) and his mom is going to stay here with H...please pray he stays asleep or we're in for trouble!

I'll post more later about this afternoon...just need hugs, feel horrible.