Support for dropping the nap part 11

[rachsk8]

Relinquishing control sounds very sensible, wish i could do that too! Good luck today. A 7.10wu is great going!

Wish I could see a pattern in DS, can't seem to get any consistently. Might post our wake/sleep pattern for the past week later see if any of you have any ideas.

[Aishi]

She sttn but wu was too early at 5.45 and she wouldn't resettle. I hope she naps today so I can push the day out a bit. I can't do a 10.5h day on a 5.45 wu!

[rachsk8]

My LO has never done a decent Wu time after 10.5hr days... But sttn is great!!

[Aishi]

Hmm i get that she may not do longer nights but she cant handle a longer nnd. She will just have nws and still wake early

[Aishi]

Ugh this transition sucks. I know I said I was going to try to relinquish control but its not easy when she won't follow the rules or any sort of pattern! She had a nap today 11.30-1, the same as a few days ago following nnds, so I expected BT to be same today too at & 6.30. Did she follow the plan? Nope. She fell asleep at 7.15! So now im worried she's going to have nws and ew like she was doing before and we're going to be in an ot mess again!

[rachsk8]

I hear you loud and clear Aishi... Can only offer empathy and hugs. This won't last forever but some days do feel like a year! It helped me to know that there were others in the exact same position as me, and I'm not the only one going thru this. It is hard!!

Hopefully you mind find some inspiration in the fact my totally irratic, sleep fighter slept for 12.5hrs last night - totally breaking the rules but in a good way this time!!! After lots of EW (5am) and short ONS I feel like I've won the lottery today!!! He still had NW's but that's ok for now, I didn't have a stroppy toddler yelling at me that it was morning at 5am this morning - I feel like a new person!! Of course I expect for it all to go out the door again but I'm celebrating the win right now. :-)

Do you think this is a good time to nudge BT out a little? It almost seems like he needs to be totally exhausted to sleep a 12hr night... Was thinking 6.30pm? Instead of 6pm we've been doing?

[Aishi]

Oh dear see if it was me I would stick to 6pm thinking that last night was a cu night....what did u end up doing?

Hugs back x

[rachsk8]

Still morning here :-) (New Zealand) So still unsure. Will see how the days go. I just think 6pm is a bit early now...

[Aishi]

What I've always found with my two that if I do pd too early they just chatter and sing till they ready to sleep. Does your lo do that? U could always pd for 6 rather than asleep for 6?

Pushing BT on the back of one good night has always backfired for me but your lo may be different...its so hard to know what tondo isn't it? :-/

[rachsk8]

Yes sooo hard to know what to do!! My LO tends to go to sleep without too much of a problem. Might take a little longer but not hours... He tends to EW - but he also EW with OT so it's almost impossible to tell if d's OT/UT! Maybe split the difference and go 6.15pm :-P

[Aishi]

What did u end up doing?

Dd woke at 6.45 so not even a 11.5h night but still 13h TS with the 1.5h nap. Is this a case of nap robbing from night sleep?  Wwyd?

[*Becky*]

Dd woke at 6.45  so not even a 11.5h night but still 13h TS with the 1.5h nap.

see I think that's really good? Am I missing something? She did a 1.5 nap and an 11.5 night???

M had no nap at CM on Friday so we did 6.30pm BT and although she had a good night she was tired yday and to make it worse we had a BBQ to go to so no nap again but she slept well last night so fingers crossed she 'might' nap today. I still find it hard to know when to go for it re no naps and atm we just kind of go by the day and what we are doing and I still PD for a nap if we are at home so she still naps probably 4 or 5 out of 7 days.

[rachsk8]

We went for 6.30pm which was the earliest we could do in the end, he was in pretty good spirits all day and it actually DID take him a while to go to sleep (30 mins) which I think was UT, not OT as he was happy enough.

I think 11.5hrs ONS is pretty good too!  That's what we get on a really good night, and our nap is pretty much gone.  I guess you could cap the nap a little shorter, see if that gives you a bit more ONS.... but 13hrs TS would be like winning the lottery here!  ;-)  Each kid is different though, of course....

Would love to work out a formula that works for a bit of consistency here still - confusing much!!!??!!

[Aishi]

Lol I guess it does look good. I'm just used to much more sleep from her and I was hoping for a later wu so I could do a nnd and later BT.

I should count my blessings tho. She did sttn!

[rachsk8]

haha... yep!  DS still rarely sttn.....  Oh well, one day he will, even if he's 16 before it happens I guess.  :-P