Thanks Kayra. I've been reading the main board, there's a ton of info to get through already.
We're doing pretty well I think, I just started getting strict with the routine two days ago and napping and feeding are falling into place (I think.) I am putting them both down for naps and bedtime together, even though that means one twin is often keeping the other awake for awhile. I figure that this is our goal so I'll start there. We only have one bedroom for them, so they're going to have to learn to go to sleep together. They are in the same playpen for naps and the same crib at night.
I do feel like I need to treat EASY more like a schedule than a routine though, because with two babies I can't really follow their lead or we'll just end up in chaos again. We're doing the three hour program. Twin B seems like he'd rather eat on a four hour schedule, but he isn't ready to stay awake longer, so I'm not sure what to do about that. Should I reduce the amount I give him in a bottle? Right now he often isn't hungry yet at the 3 hour mark.
I'm also not doing PU/PD because it just makes them furious. I'm doing a cross between Ferberizing and shush-pat, where I go in every few minutes and try to shush them down again. Twin B is already good at going to sleep on his own, just because that is his preference - he cries when he's tired and just wants to be put to bed. Twin A prefers to be rocked to sleep, so this is all new to him and he's angry about it.