2-1 transition help with 1 year old

[JennVanessa1083]

Hello!

Well things are confusing smh. We been doing set naps of 1 pm give or take 15 minutes. For the most part naps are 2-2.5 hours. Nights are unpredictable and wake ups aren't set either. He's still working on teeth 

He seems to be working on cutting a bottom molar and an upper canine is moving down. Looks like it's about to cut bc it's very transparent towards the bottom of the gum.

I'm confused about bedtime. I don't seem to get it right. Some nights we get nice long stretches. Other nights long NW. I'm wondering if he needs more A time before bed but not sure.

Yesterday he did 4.75-5 A to nap with the nanny then a 6 hour A to bed. He only woke up once. Today it ended up being a 5.75 A to nap (I got him home too late) and a 5.5 to bed. Now he's been awake for one hour and counting. Similar  thing happened last week. He will be 18 months next week.

What does a typical 18 month old schedule look like? Not sure if I should just wait until he's done with teeth and reevaluate.

[Shiv52]

Some people experience a regression at 18 months.

I think if you are late putting him down then you should cap the nap to perserve bedtime.  As he'll likely need a longer A time to bed if he still naps the same length leading to shorter night or wanting to lie in. So if set nap is 12-2.30 and a day you only get him down at 1pm id wake about 2.45 and then normal bedtime.

[JennVanessa1083]

Ok I can try that to preserve consistency. Set times are generally the way to go at this age right?

Yesterday he fought bedtime for 30 minutes but then woke before the 3 hour mark which to me indicates OT. Last night wasn't too bad. He woke from pain but no craziness but was up at 7:30.

Yesterday:

WU 8 am
S 1:26- 2:52 pm
BT 8:38 pm (fought sleep for 30 minutes)

I been doing settish naps since the nanny will sometimes put him down too early. I reiterated to her that it needs to be consistent for nights to be consistent.

I have been doing this give or take:

WU 7:30 am
S 1-3 pm
BT 8:30 pm

But not sure if the shorter nap yesterday and bad night from before made him really OT for bedtime last night. Sigh well I guess today starts a new day; of course it's a holiday and we are visiting with family for the weekend so today won't be his perfect routine lol

[JennVanessa1083]

I'm getting early waking now where he doesn't want to go back to sleep . He's only doing 10-10.5 nights not including NW. Does he need an A push?

[Shiv52]

You're doing 5.5 before and after nap?? And a 2 hour nap?

You'd mentioned teeth and holidays?? I'd maybe stick as you are but ensue consistency for a run of days including waking him in the morning and see does that help?

[JennVanessa1083]

Yesterday was 5.5 then 1.5 nap (since Thursday his nap hasn't been longer than this) then 5.5 to bed. Yesterday he was yawning and cranky before the 5 hour A mark but I put him down at 1 _•anyway and he did a 1.5 nap again.  Should I stick to a 1 pm nap despite him waking at 6:20? I was thinking 12 pm but then it's not consistent but then it's such a long time to be awake. Ugh this is hard.

Canines are on the move. Yesterday he had one red swollen cheek poor bub. Not sure if maybe he's OT with all the teething and NW. I honestly can't tell lol

[Shiv52]

I would stick to your 1pm nap to try keep him on track. The last time moving the nap earlier fed the EW.

[JennVanessa1083]

Ok update:

I ended up doing the following:

WU 6:20 am
S 12:30-2:45 pm (I tried to push him to 1 but he was a mess from around 11:30 and couldn't hold out anymore)
BT 8:27 pm (attempted for 8 but he fought sleep for around 30-40 minutes before finally going to sleep)

Not sure what this means. One top canine is cutting, one bottom canine is about to break through the gun, 3rd molar is almost fully out,and last molar is pretty much right under the gun except for one peak. All in all DS seems to be in serious pain. Not sure what to do.

[Shiv52]

Poor wee man. How was his night?

I don't think changing things routine wise will help if his teeth are bothering him. I'd keep going and stick to your routine as much as possible.

[JennVanessa1083]

These teeth are kicking our butts! Whoa! Back to back teething!

Last night he was up several times crying but he did sleep until 8 so ok going to keep sticking to the routine as much as possible.

[JennVanessa1083]

Ok I'm starting to think the EMW might be routine related. He was up at5:30 this morning and didn't go back to sleep. He woke up playful and would try to close his eyes but couldn't like he was tired enough. I tried Apoping for around an hour and nothing. He only got around 8 hours of sleep!

Yesterday's routine:
WU 8 am
S 1:30-3:30 pm
BT 8:50 pm (cranky and crying throughout routine)

I don't get it. When I do this routine in the last week I get either long a NW (up to 2!hours) or an EMW then it's a vicious cycle of pushing him to get close to a 1-1:30 pm nap then he's OT but sleeps in to normal wake up time the next day then repeat.

Maybe UT? Or is it that he's OT and plays catch up every other day? I have been redosing so I'm starting to doubt its pain since it doesn't happen every night.

Not sure how many more long NW/EMW I can take.

[JennVanessa1083]

I got another super long 2 hour NW with 5.5, 2 hour nap, 5.5 bed.

Went to bed st 8:30 and woke:11:20; 1:15-3:15 am. He tried going back to sleep but was rolling. He was rolling around fussy but not full on crying. I nursed him bc nothing else was working. He also woke up drenched in sweat probably from teething.


Ahhhh does he need a routine tweak?

[Shiv52]

I think your routine is super and it's likely teeth or the 18 month regression.  He sounded UT in the night though??

[JennVanessa1083]

Lol I wish he can learn how to speak to tell me what it is lol

He seemed UT because it took soooo long to resettle and he was trying. Also he was completely fine during our bedtime routine no crying or crazy wired.

I definitely know teeth are contributing since he was sweating a lot and his two top canines have started cutting.

I guess I'm wondering if it's something else going on.

[Shiv52]

Sounds like teeth are knocking him a bit.

How did today go?