2-1 transition help with 1 year old

[Shiv52]

How are you getting on? Hope going back to work went ok 😘

[JennVanessa1083]

Wow Shiv I can only imagine the chaos of NW with your third. Hugs to you!

Today didn't go horribly wrong. Although he had a weird night since his white noise cut off bc the battery of the speaker died. My husband had to change the speakers si DS woke and for riled up. Took an hour to go back to sleep.

The nanny gave him 2 naps which is f ideal but like you said until I get consistency, I can't be surprised by whatever comes.

[Shiv52]

Hope you got some sleep this weekend xx

[JennVanessa1083]

I'm not getting 12 hour nights. Not sure if he's OT or UT

We been doing one nap but finally did 2 naps on Sunday since he gave me a OT wake up at 5 am and he slept wonderfully. Even had a nice wake up time on Monday.

I went back to 1 nap the last two days and am getting NW and an earlier wake up of 6:30. Ugh!

this is the last 2 days:

WU 7:15
S 12:30-2 pm
S 7:20 pm

NW 10:30; 2:45; 4:50 am

WU 6:20-7:20 (dozed in and out)
S 12:45-2:30 pm
BT 7:30 pm

NW 11 pm; 1:40; 4:20

Up at 6:40 am?!

Any thoughts? Ut or OT? I'm clueless now but he's been doing these A times on one nap for awhile.

[Shiv52]

Oh my goodness. He really likes to keep you guessing.

Do you think he's coping with the A times? Or do you think as the days go on they're making him OT?

[Shiv52]

Any sign of these teeth??

[JennVanessa1083]

Not sure...he's been taking longer naps 1.75-2.5 hrs but then I still get NW and shorter nights which could be the longer naps.

Teeth is definitely still happening. Still have 3 that haven't fully cut yet.

Tuesday:

WU 6:40-7:20 am (in and out)
S 12:41-2:26 pm (A5:22)
BT 7:30 pm

NW 11; 1:40; 4:20

Yesterday:

WU 6:40
S 12:25-3:05 pm (A 5:45)
BT 8:45 pm (A 5:40; maybe too late?)

NW 11:15; 3 am

Today:

WU 7:33 am (stirred at 6:45)
S 12:30-2:40 pm
BT 7:55 pm

I'm trying to stick with a nap at 12:30 the earliest bc I don't want to shift the days earlier. Maybe I just need to stick with it? Maybe I'm allowing too much A before BT despite the long naps?

[Shiv52]

So you're doing set nap now?  Rather than set A time?  How many days all in have you done a 12.30 nap?

I wonder should you do 5 hours A time after the nap to bedtime?

[JennVanessa1083]

Sort of set nap. I go by A times unless he wakes earlier than I push him to 12:30 since any earlier and the day would move back too much. Usually he naps between 12:30 and 1 pm.

Today the nanny put him down at 1 despite a 7 am wake up which I told her 12:30 but she said he wasn't tired. He napped for 1.75 which isn't bad. Bedtime went over so instead of 7:45 it was closer to 8:10 when he fell asleep. Hopefully that won't make for a crazy night.

I can try 5 hours A after the nap for awhile and see if it helps. Ideally I don't want bedtime to fall before 7:30 pm just bc it's unrealistic on the days that I work.

[Shiv52]

I think maybe set nap set bedtime will work for you then? 

How is he finding you being back at work?

[JennVanessa1083]

He's adjusting pretty well. He cries s little when I leave but then is fine with the nanny and still takes good naps.

I'm wondering if set times will work at this point. Yesterday he did more than 2 hrs at Mao after a 5.5 Hr A then a 5.25 A to bed. I got 3 NW and a shorter night. Someone suggested when there's 2 Hr naps at his age a 13 hour day is more common. He's 16 months now.

Maybe he's having UT nights?

[Shiv52]

I know here we needed a 13 hour day with a 2 hour nap for sure. I think set times would be a good way to go especially for the nanny too.   

[JennVanessa1083]

Yea I agree. However it looks like he does need closer to a 13 hour day so trying that out with set times to see if that helps. He took a nap at 12:45 today (woke up at 7:45) and had a UT nap of an hour or so according to the nanny. So ended up putting him to bed at 7:30. I'm aiming for:

WU 7:30
S 1-3 pm
BT 8:30 pm

[Shiv52]

That sound good. An 11 hour night is what we got with a longer nap.   You need to be pretty strict about waking him at 7.30.

[JennVanessa1083]

Lol yes I do. Not sure why u have a hard time sticking to a strict WU.