Support for dropping the nap part 9.

[barbaraz78]

Claire, if it is everything due to the BBB, it is a phase and it will pass. How long is his nap now? Any chance of shorten it a little, and see if this can lead to a later wu?

[TB9]

Vicki - I would do set bed time if Sam keeps refusing his nap.  You can only put him to bed so early right?  Hope your trip goes well!

Claire - The Gro-clock was a big help for us when DD made the transition to a bgb.  Her wakeups were earlier for a bit, but then she started to understand the concept of the clock and now stays in bed until the sun is up

DD is on day 5 of no naps I think...and she's doing really well (I think).  Her day yesterday was about 11hrs and she slept almost 13hrs last night without any major nws (I heard her cry out once but she settled herself).  So I think it's time for a set bedtime so she can get used to some sort of schedule again   She woke at 8:20ish today so I'm thinking 7:30pm bedtime should be manageable for her  

One problem is now I know she won't nap so I need some quiet time ideas...normally she would hang out in bed happily chatting but now that she's getting all her sleep at night she's not as happy being in her room...she's started climbing up to her window and sneaking behind the drapes to talk to the cars that drive by, lol   Maybe I'll just set a timer and read with her in bed for a little bit longer than normal...Any other ideas ladies?

[cath~]

One problem is now I know she won't nap so I need some quiet time ideas...normally she would hang out in bed happily chatting but now that she's getting all her sleep at night she's not as happy being in her room...she's started climbing up to her window and sneaking behind the drapes to talk to the cars that drive by, lol   Maybe I'll just set a timer and read with her in bed for a little bit longer than normal...Any other ideas ladies?

That is exactly what I am doing with L.  If I leave her she protests and she doesn't want to stay and read on her own during 'quiet time' (although she does quite happily at other times ).  So for now, I am reading with her in her bedroom during quiet time.  I don't want to get all strict about it and her having to be on her own for it because then she will just learn that quiet time is not a good/nice time.  Rather, I want her to think of it as a nice time and so, once she has this idea of quiet time, I will try reading for a bit then popping off for a short time to do something, then returning...  That is my plan anyway!  Since I work 4 days, I only get to try it a couple of times a week anyway (she will still car-nap if we are out on the w/e) so I think this will take a while..

I don't think she is ready for quiet time on the sofa yet though cos she would just want to run off and play.

[Truly Blessed]

Claire, if it is everything due to the BBB, it is a phase and it will pass. How long is his nap now? Any chance of shorten it a little, and see if this can lead to a later wu?

This ^ is what I'm thinking Hun, maybe it's time to shorten the nap  I know that hasn't worked out for Oliver in the past but do you think it may be worth a try now, as things are constantly changing    . I agree though that it could be down to the BBB and very possibly may right itself when he adjusts.

Tinkerbell, I'm glad she's doing well Hun, but just watch out for those nights shortening, as with us and many others it's usually the first sign of OT creeping in. WRT quiet time I know a Den or a Tent with tons of cushions and favourite toys works out for some LO's. It has even been known for them to nap in there of their own accord  .


So Ladies, we have a nap day!  Despite his very best efforts to the contrary when I got him in his room in the dark, he literally couldn't fight the tiredness. The past 2 days he has ended up doing 11.15 day length and 11.5 night sleep, then last night was 5.20 BT asleep and 4.50 am up this morning. So today has gone like this:

WU 4.50

Nap 1.45 (almost 9 hours from WU)

I am thinking a 1.5 hour nap, as I just can't see being able to wake him any time sooner, and will probably struggle big time anyway. But what time BT  what a mess!  Usually he would have done a 13 hour day with a 1 hour nap, and needs 6 hours after nap to BT, but a nap after 7 hours A time has recently meant I could get him down shortly after 5 hours A time. In the current OT situation I am actually pondering 3.15 WU from nap and BT 8.00. A really long day but I need a wake up tomorrow of 7 am or as close to as possible in case he does no nap on me again....sigh 

What would you do  This is my last day to put him to bed before I'm away and then it's over to Daddy. God only knows what will happen then.

x.

[clairebear79]

Hi ladies

Yes it prob will pass, its not true EW either as he's still doing 10.5-11hrs overnight plus a 2hr nap, & 6.30am really isnt bad its just a lot earlier than we've gotten used to of late! so i'm really not complaining, nor do i plan to tweak/cut the nap just now.  If his wakeup goes earlier than 6am & his nights shorter than 10hrs I will def reconsider. Its just a shame as he was self regulating, waking later meant we were naturally dropping the nap & i feel like we're going backwards having to do a nap every day again, yk?

Vicki - yay for the nap! 8pm bedtime sounds good, its what i'd do too.x

[barbaraz78]

Vicki, happy for the nap!!
I agree, 1.5 h nap and I would try a 8 pm bt. Sooner if he looks still tired.
Then, if you have a good wu tomorrow, I agree with others on trying set bt. And it would be much easier for daddy and grandma to follow these instructions when you are away.

[cath~]

Yay for the nap!
And I agree with advice above re BT today and going fwd
Try not to stress and enjoy your trip! Whatever happens it can always be fixed!

[barbaraz78]

Oh, yes Vicki, ENJOY!!! It will be nice to be alone eventually and put all the responsibilities in someone else hands! Don't stress too much about it!!

[Truly Blessed]

Thank you everyone! I am glad we are all in agreement that makes it easier for me LOL. Having said that I opened Sam's door at 3 pm, he heard his Daddy's voice, jumped up and said "I want to run to me Daddy!" and off he went and he is a very happy chap  So 1 hour 15 nap and 3 pm WU. Will observe and bring BT a little earlier if he struggles, but I doubt he will looking at him right now, diving head first onto the sofa   

I can't believe I will have 3 nights uninterrupted sleep! I bet I wake anyway 

x.

[Truly Blessed]

So we actually did something rash this afternoon and gave him the full size single bed from the spare room and moved the small toddler bed out. He has never really like the small bed and I don't think the foam mattress is comfortable for him now that he is 3 ft 4 and 2 stone 8.5 pounds (already). So when I asked him if he would like it he was super excited so we went for it. He went over at 8.15 with no fuss and he usually hates change, so it's a good sign. Maybe he will STTN because he's so comfy (yeah right). Anyway the day worked out as well as I could hope for and who knows what tomorrow will bring 

Hope your LO's had a good day today.

x.

[barbaraz78]

Good day Vicki!! I hope the night is good as well!
Have a good trip! are you going faraway or close home?

[Truly Blessed]

Thanks Barbara, just a 2 hour drive, so not too bad. See you girls here next week.

x.

[Mama_Mia]

Hurrah for the nap Mama C, did you go with the happy medium BT

I actually went with the early bt and put him down at 6. He went to sleep pretty quickly and only woke once in the night, so that was all good. Tonight is a different story as Georgia is getting hammered with storms and tornados so I took the whole family to a motel for the night. Much better than sleeping in an RV that could get blown away. So anyway I didnt get M down until 8pm after a 6:30 wu. I think he's going to be up off and on all night long. But at least I feel safer

Hope you trip goes well and that Sam catches up on some sleep, I would do set BT too if he keeps refusing his nap. Thats basically what I have done with M. He goes to bed at 5:45 every night. I think he has napped maybe twice in the last 3 weeks.

OOps guess I was a bit late, well Good job on the nap!!

[Truly Blessed]

Gosh, stay safe Mama C, that's really frightening. Thanks for the advise.x.

[:: ANA ::]

Hello ladies,

Would you please talk to me about "quiet time"?

What do you do?
For how long?
At what time of the day?
Where?
Do you leave your LOs by themselves?

Or is there any post somewhere around here where I can read about it?
My LO dropped the nap cold turkey 4 months ago.  He doesn't nap at all and I suppose I've been in denial these past few months hoping for naps to come back  . So, I haven't really established a "quiet time" routine or whatever and I don't know where to start.

Thank you!