Support for dropping the nap part 11

[PineapplePrincess]

We haven't tried that short of a nap yet. I see us going down that route soon though. The shortest is 45 min, but my kid needs a 12.75-13 hour awake time if napping or not. I'd offer a 12 hour day if your LO needs one.

We got a good night of 8:45- 7:15. He took a nap at 1:45-2:30, so he'll probably fall asleep around 8:45/9:00 again. He played outside all day so I'm hoping that he'll be so exhausted by bedtime.

[Aishi]

Yesterday we did

Wu 7.10
She didn't nap in car but did at home so we did

Wu 7.10
Nap 3.30-3.45
Bt 7.30 she was asleep by 7 but ds woke her

She was bit unsettled and had one nw but slept till 7.40. I think k I'll stick with cn at 3.30 and 7 BT so we get some consistency until she has ot nws or ew then I can do cu nap. Wdyt?

Think I'll stick with cn 3.30-3.50 and 7 BT until she has ewu or really unsettled night then I'll know she's ot and I can do a long cu nap. Wdyt?

[jessmum46]

Sounds a good plan Aishi x

[PineapplePrincess]

Wow 3:30 is a super late nap, Aishi. Is it because she sleeps such a long night? 7:30 till 7:40 ONS is a lot with a nap. I am jealous! Mine gets up around 7:15, but he goes down for his nap at 1:45 and i wake at 2:30. He won't fall asleep for bed till 8:45/9 though.

We got another fairly good night. 9:00-7:20. I woke him up at 7:20 because if he sleeps in later than that he won't go to bed till 9:30. Also, he has school today, so he needed to be up by a certain time.

[Aishi]

Don't be jealous PP yesterday was the first day I tried a short cn that late so don't know if its going to be a long term thing! She won't nap every day and if she does she needs at least 6hr after the nap to BT but that results in a long day and short night. Then she gets ot. I think she is ready to drop the nap but just not ready for long nnds (even 11h) it just leads to ewu. So I'm hoping a short late nap will keep ot at bay and push the day up to 12h iykwim?

She did cn 3.30-3.50 and I pd for BT at 6.50. She's been making happy noises so I can assume not ot. Asleep by 7.15

[jessmum46]

Good luck for the night Aishi x

[Aishi]

Thanks hon. That was a good tip about 15-20 min cn she's fine being woken up. I'm not! Lol it feels so unfair to wake her so quickly!

[Aishi]

Hmm seems like she's not going to follow the plan...she sttn 7.15-6.15 so I thought she would do a cu nap today but she didn't. I'm thinking perhaps she was a bit ut as the total a yesterday wasn't that long...I dunno

Well she did cn 2.50-3.15 and I thought 6.30 BT so its still within set BT limits.

I guess there's not much I can do except keep offering nap and sticking to set BT till she gets used to this routine

[jessmum46]

She'll get there hun . And just when you think she has, she'll fall asleep in the car like DD did today woke her after 10-15 mins though so hopefully BT will still be ok!

[Aishi]

Lol they certainly don't make it easy do they? x

[rachsk8]

Does anyone not do a set BT but still go on total A time based on WU? Just thinking about PineapplePrincess saying her DS needed a 12.75-13hr day with or without a nap and wonder if my DS is the same?
He is still quite up and down and alternating between 10.75-11.5ht days and I'm wondering if a 12hr day is a little too short for a long ONS. Sounds like a long day for a 2.75yr old to me but who knows I guess! It's winter too so lots of indoor days meaning not running around outside and getting really worn out. Just a thought.

[Aishi]

I've only started to do set BT rach. Prior to this I've always worked with a times before and after nap as dd is so sensitive to ot...although I do think you can have a set BT and go on total a time to if you tweak the nap length....

So dd didn't fall asleep till 7! That was after a 25min nap so almost a 13h day following only an 11h night...seems too long to me but I guess I didn't have a say in it. Dyt I let her nap too long? Or she was ot?

I know I know I'm over analysing. *sigh* I don't know how to stop!

[rachsk8]

I think our nap is pretty much gone... Bit I'm still here, lol, I think this forum is my security blanket. ;-)

I have overanalysed this whole process too. DH tries to tell me it's not a science but part of me thinks if I find the 'magic formula' then we will all be better rested and happier! I'm still looking for the perfect answer, but trying really hard to let go as there is only so much control we have over this and some kids do this transition harder than others.

 I've offered the nap almost every day so he has the opportunity to nap (he has fought it tooth and nail a lot of the time) but at least in not double guessing if I should have tired or not.
It's a hard process, and sometimes a long one. In the early days I was capping nap to 1hr (never dropped much less than that it tried a CN) and BT 7pm, though he often took an hour to go to sleep on nap days. In the beginning he was doing long ONS on nap days but that changed over time til the nap was robbing ONS and now i can only hope for a 10hr ONS with a nap which makes for a OT day following.

The fact that you are here looking for ways to help DD shows me you are a thoughtful loving mamma who wants to do the best for your LO so she is well rested and happy. That's the best any if us can do. ((Hugs)) This too shall pass!

[Aishi]

Thanks rach. I'm not completely selfless I need my sleep too! Plus she's a right bear when shes tired which makes life hard for all of us!

She sttn, did 7-7 I guess I'll have trust that she is regulating herself and will sleep as much as she needs to as long as I stay consistent!

Fxd the hard part is over

[jessmum46]

Yay Aishi, stick with it and don't despair if you get some wonky days.  After the sneaky CN yesterday DD went down as usual at 6.30 and woke just after 7am so fingers crossed she's caught up whatever OT had crept in