Support for dropping the nap part 11

[Aishi]

Yay for sttn rach!

Bt varies depending on wu. Its usually 11/11.5h after wu. What time would u do nap and BT today?

[rachsk8]

I'd probably keep nap around the same time, maybe let her have 1hr then BT 6.30?  In saying that, I'm not an expert on this.  :-)

[Aishi]

So this is what she did today

Wu 5.15
Nap 10.30-12
Bt 6.05

She was in a horrendous mood all day and needed a nap so early. Hope it doesn't backfire.  Looking back at my logs the last time she had early nap and 12.5h day she did I've 12h on so although today was a bit longer I really hope she will do same tonight.

Depending on wu I think I'm going to try for a late cn every day and do 6.30/ 7 BT. Im hoping a set BT will help her self regulate quicker so we can get through this horrible transition.

[PineapplePrincess]

Haribo, I wouldn't worry too much. We get 10.5 on a bad day too, but he is best with 11.25, which seems to be his average. He's 33 months. I can honestly say it fluctuates between 10.5-11.5. At first there was a big difference between the amount of sleep he did on no nap days as opposed to nap days, but we are still evening out at 11-11.5 for both. I wish he'd do 12, but it seemed to have stopped at 12 right around 26 months or so. After that it's been no more than 11.5.

[rachsk8]

We are in almost the exact same place PP - same age too. We get the odd random 12hr but mostly 11 now.

[PineapplePrincess]

Rachsk8, I think it's totally age appropriate.  i have some friends who have high sleep needs kids, but I know my kid has never been like that, so I can't compare. He's more lower/average but sttn, hardly any NWS (just like once a month) so as long as he doesn't wake me up at night it's all good.

The only think I fear is the transition to a bed, which I know most have done by now, but my kid is spirited so I will switch him when developmentally ready. He's also not potty trained yet, so that's going to be another sleep disturbance I'm sure. Not looking forward to it.

[Aishi]

Dd sttn 6.00- 7.15!!! It was obviously a cu night (she had a 1,5h nap). She really can't handle nnds but I don't know how to get her to nap :-/

[jessmum46]

Just keep offering hun, and give her the control about whether she does or not

We used to give J 45 mins to an hour to settle, and if she didn't we just got her up.  Now even though she's not napping she still has quiet time every day she's at home after lunch.  She used to protest a bit but now really likes her 'quiet time bag' and will happily play quietly in her room for an hour or more.  Gives us both some down time!  Some ideas if you choose to go that route - colouring or sticker books, Aquadoodle, threading cards, Russian dolls, letter/picture cards, books, magnetic drawing board, soft toys.....it's worked really well for us so sharing in the hope others may find the same x

[Aishi]

Thanks hon. She does ok with quiet time she's quite happy to sing and play with her teddies for an hour or so but the other ideas are useful for when she gets bored of that!

[rachsk8]

In desperation I went down the car nap route... Not for everyone though but it saved my sanity many a time when DS really really needed to nap but refused. I guess eventually they will catch up one way or another. They aren't super human. :-) Giving her control is probably the best way, but do what you need to do to keep yourself sane. :-)

[rachsk8]

Oh and just as I thought we were doing really well, my wee man had a Spontaneous and complete meltdown at 5.30 tonight. :-( He seemed ok all day, so when DH told me I was a bit surprised. But guessing OT? I guess time will tell. FX he sleeps really well and catches up tonight...!!??

[Aishi]

Hmm I was thinking of doing this

Wu 7.10
Cn 3-3.30
Bt 7

So its still only a 12h day but hopefully cn would help keep ot at bay and prevent ew. Maybe do for a few days and then a cu nap like yesterday. Wdyt?

[jessmum46]

Just a thought, may be completely different for your DD, but J was an absolute bear to wake after 30 mins.  15-20 no problem, and that seemed enough to get us to BT.  Letting her have longer just made a very miserable little girl .

[Aishi]

Thanks Katherine. I've never capped that much before. The only time she took such a short nap was on a day out and she was fine after 20 min cn so I could try that. Dyt shell be ok on a 12h day with just 20 min? I'd like to use today's later wu to set BT at 7...

[jessmum46]

Our days were normally 12h or so on that short CN . Never did the CN in bed though, always in the car (if she'd take it) and so there was something to immediately distract her when she woke up.  BT set at 7 sounds good, hang in there, you'll get through it x