Support for Dropping That Last Nap, Thread #2

[debo620]

yeh Kaleb!!!!

[aisling]

LOL at the scissors.  I taught Nello this most outrageous and exaggerated silly slow walk right out of Monty Python for N to do with scissors.  Makes me howl everytime I see him.

DH and DS love that Max too and love it when Ruby gets proven wrong!

N can't miss 2 days of naps either, but basically if he wakes up at 8am or later a nap won't happen, there are just not enough hours in the day kwim? 

So after his marathon nap today, he was in bed no fuss at 8:50 and blabbed to his ladybug light and stuffed animals and was asleep at 9:20.

[marensmama]

Maren played in her window seat for an hour before finally giving in to night sleep.  That stupid accidental nap messed us up! She was in such a state all evening, she only just got happy and it was bedtime.  I think she needs no naps ever, but then wonder if that's just mean?  Would she sleep eventually for the 11-12 hrs at night, or just be chronically OT...

[rinajack]

Zara didn't nap today and Hugh only had 45 mins (turns out he has an ear infection).  Difficult afternoon, I am sure you can imagine!

[debo620]

we had an awful night!  

this was yestrerday:
woke 6:45 (10hr night)
slept 1:15-2:30---I woke him
bed for 7:45 and asleep 8:10
he was quiet and relaxed at 7:30---seemed like a good time for bed, but not OT

woke crying at 3:15--and then with that much sleep behind him stayed awake til 5ish
there is absoluely nothing I can do for these NW---just have to wait for him to get tired again and go back to sleep,,arrgh--they do seem to be OT related as they always happen after 7hrs of sleep.

frustrating because we all slept til 8 this morning---and I hope a nap at a decent time is not too much of a stretch

[aisling]

Deb, could you try this version of W2S?  Before you go to bed like at 11 or 12, the later the better, go in there and rustle him a bit and make him have a good stir, re-covering him etc...this has worked for us when we were having repeat wake ups at the 7 hour mark, although I do think ours was teething related at that time.  It just rebooted the cycle, kwim?  Worth a shot.

A x

[debo620]

Stacy, he has always done a LONG a time in the am and a shorter one in the afternoon--so it was 6.5hrs yesterday--really that is not that long for him...he was asleep within a good time yesterday --just after 8

I give up!

today is another screwy day of course---tired looking all morning, put him to bed and he was quite happy to run to his room at 1pm----but its 2:15pm and he has just fallen asleep...

since he was up in the night, I know he could not have survived til even 6pm without a nap, but I know its really too late for him to be napping at this point..we are scr**** either way.

[debo620]

joined BW at like 3months to deal with 45min naps---don't you remember LOL---you were THE nap and pupd moderator at that point!

we han't had any NW for a couple of months..

so think I'll just be happy with a 10hr night 8:30-6:30
least then then he'll nap at the 6-6.5 hr mark and I'll just go with 1.5hr naps for now...

can't win so I'm going to stop trying for now~

[rinajack]

FWIW I agree with Stacy on this one.  We get naps at 7 hours, but we get VERY late nights after that, like 9:30 or even later, and have chosen to live with those for now.  We also get nights that are less than 10 hrs, often only 9.  Again, something we have chosen to live with.

After Zara didn't nap yesterday, the late afternoon/evening was fairly unpleasant, which means napping and short nights right now are what I believe is best for her.  Not necessarily best for me, but her needs come first.

[marensmama]

Maren slept until 7:20 this morning (from about 8:10 last night)... so with an 11 hour night, we're possibly happier with no nap at all.  I say possibly because she is a bit crabbier than when she is totally well-rested, but my hope is that she'll adjust to going the whole day with no nap.  She won't do quiet time either, so after having a fit because I got Hayden up from her nap without big sis in tow, I sat her in front of the tv for 30 minutes, and that seemed to do the trick.  Anyone see any reason this will backfire on me completely?

FWIW, if it was just a short night in our case, I'd still nap her, but she fights the nap every step of the way, then has EW and short nights on top of it... I think I'd end up with massive frustration by forcing the nap, and really, she's getting more sleep now with no nap (well, last night anyways )

[debo620]

thanks Stacy, he is cute---the last thing I want to do is not enjoy him because of stressing about sleep--been there, done that when he was a babe and now I feel guilty about it...

we'll get things sorted, its part him, part big boy bed--so there is only so much I can do...

he asked to go to bed at 7:50---was reading books with dad and told him he wanted to go to bed and he did...

[aisling]

Stir him , stir him go for it!!!!!!

[rinajack]

marens mum - if she is not unbearable on 1 nap, then go for it.  But we had Zara crying over everything last night, it really wasn't worth it. Plus she is older than Zara, Zara is only just 2!

[marensmama]

Rina, I agree completely with you! If they are crabby and irrational then definitely the nap is not done forever.  On its way out, sure, but not done IYKWIM.  I think for me the thing is, I am fighting for every nap and then paying for it later, and my frustration level is through the roof, so it was really time for me to figure out what the benefits were to napping (she'll be 3 in July, so as you mentioned she's got several months on Zara, and it's developmentally appropriate).  And I'm not even sure the nap is gone for good... if this no-nap experiment goes sour then I'll be back forcing the issue again.

[rinajack]

I think perhaps if she does get cranky, then maybe she will at that point actually be tired enough to nap on those days.