Extended Nursing Support Thread part 4

[clazzat]

When I went to one feed with e I dropped the bedtime feed first because we used to have a snuggly feed in the morning which I didn't want to give up! She was about 15/16 months, I think. I thought that it would be really difficult to drop the bedtime feed but actually she didn't even notice.

[amayzie]

yeah.. i reckon the BT will be easiest for us to lose too- he goes crazy for the morning feed, but BT he likes- but will sometimes squirm away to check out something else!

[Papaya]

I thought that it would be really difficult to drop the bedtime feed but actually she didn't even notice.

yeah, I suspect it may be like this here too. She has gone without her bt milk a few times recently when I've been out and DH says she hasn't seemed bothered at all. Maybe it'll be different if I am here though. Think we'll give it a go this week - she was bobbing around all over the place this evening!

[*Ali*]

With Cadan I kept the BT and WU feed until the end pretty much (26mo). Then I just distracted him by getting up in the morning and doing breakfast. I already had a 6mo Colby so there was no peaceful morning snuggle, we had a grizzly baby clambering all over us. That was pretty non-eventful.
I kept the BT feed until last and then just moved it before the whole bedtime routine for few weeks and the I just didn't offer it and gave him a dippy of warm milk and sent him upstairs to do BT with DH. He didn't notice for a few days and then when he asked on the 4th or 5th day I just said he was a big boy and didn't need boobies anymore and then just distracted him. I think we had tears a couple days after a week or 10 days but he was easily comforted and then he never asked again. Good luck.

[ZacsMumme]

We kept BT but not am, and for us it was really easy. I did it on a sat am and Dh got up, got Z and I made toast.the min he came out we made a big deal out of breakie and ate together, then sun same and after that no more interest in am milk that said Z was 15 mths.

We dropped it because it was affecting his solids intake, and I knew there was no way he would let me drop BT

As Ali mentions with Dh, we did the same, also when I dropped BT feed. DH did it to remove the temptation for him and me (though with BT he wasn't wanting it much as my milk had changed with being pregnant)

[amayzie]

Ok- so comment from mum today 'If you dont stop breastfeeding him soon you'll be still feeding him when the next one comes along!'

um- so a) what would be wrong with that, and b) as we are not yet pregnant, nor are we trying to get pregnant there is probably no great rush to wean in order to avoid the awful situation that would be BFing 2 kids at once!!

[Fiver]

Grrr on your behalf, Katy.

We also lost the WU feed first.  Mum and Dad came to stay for a week and they just got her up and left me in bed

Still not sure how much longer BT feed will last as it seems to be getting shorter, but have always said I wanted her to self-wean, so we carry on until such a time as she tells me 'no thanks'

[clazzat]

X has not been very interested in his bt feed the last couple of days, but he is teething his last canine so that might be why. I would like it if he weaned that one on his own, though, as it is a bit difficult trying to get all 3 of them to bed at the same time when he needs a feed!

[amayzie]

Mum and Dad came to stay for a week and they just got her up and left me in bed

hmm- sounds like a great plan!!

[Fiver]

[Erin M]

Well, 3 days with no feeds here, so I guess we're done.  Dropped the AM a few weeks ago when school started for the girls -- he really wasn't interested anymore, would go for a few sucks then wander off to play.  BT was becoming the on-again, off-again routine for a bunch of nights, and quite honestly I was ready to be done.  So, we've just played on the floor and read books the last 3 nights before bed and he doesn't seem to notice.    Bittersweet. 

[amayzie]

that it has been so easy- that it has been so easy!! In some ways i'm sure it would have been nice to have him have a tantrum over it hey!! Hooray on the new found freedom!

[Fiver]

Big hugs.  If you're both satisfied that this is it, then a big well done for all you've done for your little guy.

I really don't think it matters when you finish feeding and whether it's on your or their terms, it's always a bit sad.

[Erin M]

If you're both satisfied that this is it, then a big well done for all you've done for your little guy.

Satisfied, but sad, yk?
And pleased -- nursed dd1 for 10.5 months, dd2 for 12, and now ds for nearly 16.  And I never wanted to quit something more than I did when dd1 was tiny, so glad I pushed through with her as I'm sure I wouldn't have had the wonderful experiences I did with the next two if I hadn't pushed through the beginning rough patches with her. 

[Fiver]

Good job, Erin.