Good luck at the doctor Karen.
I don't know why F doesn't eat either. It doesn't seem to be about taste or texture with him. He's just never hungry or something. The throwing is what really gets to me though. I mean if you don't want something fine, but don't hurl it at me!
I would so love to give him a plate or a bowl of something and some cutlery and just let him go at it, but I don't because everytime I try he picks up the whole dish and tosses it over the side. I know it's a learning thing but I am so over cleaning food up off the floor! I give him cutlery, that usually ends up on the ground too.
Today though he surprised me and ate some oatmeal with his hands. I've tried before and he wouldn't eat it, I assumed maybe it was too slimy. Today he shoved a whole bunch in, so that was promising at least!
And T....we'll he's just an almost 3yo. We'll just leave it at that, lol.