Support for Dropping the Nap age 2-3 Part 4!

[*Becky*]

nightmare...yes!

[Grants]

Hi ladies, I hope you don't mind me joining in?! I'm sure that a lot of you already know DS quite well. Not for the right reasons though LOL

He is currently on 1 hour nap atm. He STTN last night. I'm hoping for another good night today!

[consmummy]

Hi Grants,

Don't know your story but D was on 1-1.15 at about the same age, he's always been lower sleep needs as well. Hope your transition is smooth!

[Grants]

Thanks Consmummy. Anything sleep related is never smooth with my
little monkey. How old is your lo? How long is her nap now?

[Khalam's Mama]

Welcome to the nightmare Grants. Hooray for STTN. Good luck tonight.

We had no nap today and a 10hr 45 day by the time he slept. He was messing around and asked me to lay with him. He keeps doing this lately. I don't mind laying with him a little but don't want to be/can't be there for ages as I have a 4mo to look after too. I did lay with him and he fell asleep in less than one minute. Sometimes if he is like that I say I am off to go toilet/check his brother etc and will come back and he falls asleep before i go back in. I am hoping with a 7.35pm Bt we will get a 7.30wu at least. FX. I must say I feel like we are getting the balance right lately. TG. I have not been dispairing with him lately.

[scucci1979]

4pm ladies and she is still up. do you think 6:30pm is a good bt? She has been up since 6:30am.

[scucci1979]

posted at the same time! LOL  I am finding that Madi wants me to be beside her too during nap time. I didn't do it today, hence the no nap. Tomorrow, I plan to lay down with her for a little bit.

[sianie]

Sabs, I would go for a 6.30 BT at the latest, earlier if she's not handling it well.

[Tweakster]

I'd do 6.  I really think she'll give you at least 11 hrs and then you are no worse off.

I don't think it's just developmental - F has always been ahead on nap transitions, trying to drop his CN at 5 mths and then moving the 2-1 at 9.5 mths.  Now this.  But I don't think he's ready to cut his nap, but he does emotionally and behaviourally require more night sleep.  He just can't figure out how to get it. 

[Khalam's Mama]

I would do 6 too Sabs. If she ew at 4amafter 10hrs at least it is early enough to get her back down as it will feel early to her you know? 12hrs on no nap would be too much for K. I always find we will get a better night UT than Ot here.

[barbaraz78]

Hi ladies,
Can I join you? ds is only 21 months, but he's down to 10-10.5 h nights max (due to bt refusal and ew). He's still sleeping 2-2.5 h for nap though. I'm not sure if I have to cup the nap. Last time I did, as we had shorter nights, this did not help at all, and he kept the short nights, resulting more OT. So I don't feel to shorten the nap more than 2 h. But also ds was always early with nap transitions (we started 2-1 at 9 months!), so I suspect that this decrease in sleep is the beginning of 1-0 transition...

[Khalam's Mama]

Of course you can join. Misery loves company. LOL.

That is more sleep than we had atthat age in the day Barbara. If you cut the nap do you put him to bed early? My DS will tack on with EBT but not in the mornings. I would cut to 1.5hrs. What is your current routine? BT/WU/nap time etc???

[scucci1979]

She is amazingly doing well. Bt will be 6:30pm.  I really hope she gives me a decent night. I don't want an ew tomorrow.
pray for me ladies, please.

[*Becky*]

praying for you sabs - good luck!

[barbaraz78]

Thank you Khalam's Mama! Our routine needs to find a little stability now, as we have recently started nursery after summer holidays. Also, we usually prefer to have a later bt, because DH and I are not morning persons at all, and we come back late from work (around 6.30-7 pm) so we like to have dinner with DS and spend some time with him. ATM our routine is:
WU: 7-7.30 am (before it used to be 7.30-8, which worked well for us, as I aim to 8 am wu)
nap: 2.15-4.15 pm
BT: 9 pm

Now: to move bt earlier I need to do an earlier nap, but I can't because he comes out from nursery at 1.30 and when he arrives home it's at least 2. Then he recently started to fight sleeping a little (not really much but he calls few times), so in the end he did not sleep before 2.15. Nap used to start at 1.45 pm during holiday. In addition, he's starting to fight bt also calling for us, and the last two nights he did not actually fall asleep before 9.30 pm. I don't know if this calling us at bt is actually UT (there is no so much A time from nap to bt) or it is a starting nursery-related thing. If it is UT, an earlier bt would make things worst. Anyway, I can try to shorten the nap and see what happens... Even if I am a little afraid to do this because he seems to really need that nap.