Support for Dropping the Nap age 2-3 Part 4!

[Grants]

9.5 night is also the norm here Koe, plus throw in the NWs and EWs every single night . Last night was another 9.5 night with 1 hour nap. A mere total of 10.5. I'm letting him nap as much as he likes today. Neighbours are refurbishing the house so we have loads of noise ATM I just hope it doesn't disturb M.  

Tbh I don't even think he is dropping the nap. I think he might have some kind of sleep disorder. The way he carries on it's not normal at all

[consmummy]

Afternoon ladies,

I think today is going to be fun here as D was awake at 6am with a nasty cough. Went and got him at 6.30. he was almost falling asleep in the car this morning, so maybe, just maybe he'll nap today. If not I fear it'll be meltdown time by this evening!

If he doesn't nap within the next 2-3 days I think I may not bother offering it. if he's gone a week with no nap then can I say that it's probably gone for good? (bar the odd nodding off in the car or sofa, of course, but no more structured nap?)

[scucci1979]

Grants, if he naps long, will he still do a short night? I remember you said you were going to bring him to the doc.

Ladies, I don't know what happened last night. She briefly woke at 2am, came into my room so I brought her back.  4am Alyssa had a nw then I think it was 5am, she came into my room agin. I don't remember picking her up, but I found her in my bed at 7am sleeping. I know WEndy, put that gate up. I feel so bad locking her in her room.  Why does this girl come into my room at this time. I guess if A didn't have the nw, I probably would of been more aware of what was going on.  
Other then that, she did do an 11hr night.

[Grants]

Grants, if he naps long, will he still do a short night? I remember you said you were going to bring him to the doc.

Yep! short nights no matter what as he never really wakes up past 6am.

Yay for 11hr night! I think I would feel bad locking DS in his room as well

[scucci1979]

Have you talked about his sleep issues to his doc.

[Tweakster]

And see as a parent who also needs her sleep I don't feel the least bit bad.  You are not doing it to be punitive or mean.  You are teaching your child that we can't wander around at night or early morning and disturb other people's sleep.  It's part of being a cooperative family.  I do get why it's hard, but I also think chronic sleep deprivation is actually a lot harder on you all.  You are not 'locking her in' - it's about social boundaries and rules around sleep!

Well things are very weird here, the long nap is helping.  Still a 10-10.5 hr night but it's a lot better actually.  We'll see.

[Grants]

I have booked an appointment for him on the 23rd. In the meanwhile we are going to try fixing the only bad habit he has at the moment, not wanting to fall asleep by himself at BT.

Yes  Wendy, I think/know you are right . Its  just one if those things. Mothers' guilt I guess. Great to hear that the long naps are still working !

[consmummy]

Now i know I'll probably jinx this by saying so, but D has not napped and seems fine. I actually think he's gone and done cold turkey on this nap all by himself! I tried to get him to nap, specially as I've not been well today, but he simply didn't want to. Let me sleep while he watched a dvd tho, bless him.

Grants, good on you for seeking out help. I honestly think so many people suffer in silence over this, wont admit that 2-3 years on they're still sleep deprived. but it's a very real problem and I really hope you get the help (and sleep!) you all need xx

[scucci1979]

Grant, fingers crossed for you.

Wendy, i know you are right. I keep telling her about the rules but it that mother's guilt that taunts me. Sigh. One step forward and two steps back. 

[scucci1979]

So ladies she fell asleep again at 1pm today on the sofa. I thought for sure she was not going to nap today but I think it is b/c it is so gloomy today. I think I am going to do one hour again. 

I have come to the conclusion that she needs at least 12hours of sleep in a 24hour period, especially for good behaviour.


Wendy, keeping my fingers crossed.

[koe2moe]

Hugs, Grants!  I know the feeling, we had that and we had 8h30 last night!!!  I don't function at all today.  We managed to put him down really early!  7:30, he is chatting away.  I think he is going through another GS!  Brain going super fast, talking nonstop and not eating much!!!  I shouldnt even be here, I should go to bed. 

11h night is good!!  Vibes to all

[scucci1979]

Oh boy! Alyssa woke her up at the one hour mark and she just freaked out. I mean freaked out!!!  Kicking the sofa, shouting and crying. hey, I didn't tell her to nap on the sofa.

[koe2moe]

Oh ladies, just wondering if u hd experience with this. I removed the nightlight and DS woke at 5:30 screaming for his light and I remnded him that the light was waking him p too early.  This evening, his mind was too active chatting away, telling things he did yesterday and the day before and then he wanted me to rub his back and then was sounding like his SA a few weeks back again!!  Can he really have fear of darkness?  He has been waking up earlier and earlier since we started with the nightlight!!

He was definitely OT last night but he was waking an hour earlier each morning in the last three mornings, so 7-ish, 6-ish and 5-ish!!  Naps were roughly the same!  What is this???

[Tweakster]

Sorry I think I missed something but you took away his light?  What made you do that in the first place?  Did you think he was waking early because of it?  What about putting it on a timer?

[Tweakster]

hey, I didn't tell her to nap on the sofa.

LOL that's really funny

It's the kind of thing we say to Finn 'well we didn't tell you not to go back to sleep when you wake at 9 hrs' lol