I met my DH (we're not married so what is he really DF ??) 10 years ago
LOL Bec-no, he's not a Dream Feed he's a Dear Partner, DP! And I don't have to worry about my DH thinking I'm sexy. He'd have me 3 times a day if it was up to him. It's about ME thinking I'm sexy. So I'll have to work on that.
Kate-thanks for the book suggestion. I'd heard of that years back and considered it...maybe I'll pick it up for christmas as a hint that I want to help things along.
I found with my first two that things drastically improved after I stopped bf'ng and basically jumped in for like a week straight.
Judy-I sure hope you're right. I'd like to get SOME drive back.
I wasn't kidding when I said on the chat the DH must have sneezed on me to make me preggers. We were being careful in that we wouldn't have sex during that 11 or so day window after period. Well, little did I realize my cycle was 35 days long and that meant that my math was a little messed up :roll: So the ONE time we did it (we went away for a weekend) in like 4 weeks it happened!
MY dh's comment is always the same - that if one partner isn't interested then the other partner needs to work harder at helping them feel interested rather than feeling upset or rather than the one less interested feeling guilty.
Judy-I like your DHs attitude. My DH never ever makes me feel guilty about it. He knows that it's just the way I am and has come to accept it. As I said I gave DH an out. He said he'd do without sex for the rest of his life if that's what he had to do to be with me. Of course that's a little over the top, but it's good to know that he loves me that much. I think I owe it to him to figure out if there is something "wrong" with me...whether it be physical, emotional, psychological. I have often thought of seeing a sexual therapist for a while. I don't think it could hurt anyway.
Macaire-thank you for the book suggestions and words of support re: alcoholic parents. My mother is too as well as one of my brothers so yes, I understand about the holidays *sigh*
Nikki-how does your DH feel about your drive? If you don't mind me asking. Is he okay with it? My DH rarely even approaches me anymore for fear of refusal so I think I really need to take steps to do the initiating...
alright-enough about sex and alcohol! LOL-trying to lighten the conversation leading into the weekend (and for those already into the weekend!)
We had another pretty good night. Very much the same but getting gradually later which is good. Down at 6pm, fed at 9pm (still early given 5:30 feed), woke at 1:40 and settled himself, woke at 4:30 (woo hoo)-fed one boob, woke at 6:10!!! I am loving this after 6 stuff. I feel soooo much better
I put him down for nap at 8:50 and he struggled a bit-not sure if not tired enough or too tired. I think the latter as he actually rubbed his eyes before I started to sing to him. Really hoping to ditch the catnap today. Yesterday we went walking before nap and he fell asleep 30 minutes earlier than I had expected so I ended up walking for 1 hour and 30 minutes. Of course, the nap itself was only 45 min because I walked by a house having it's roof done at the 45 min mark :twisted: I would have brought him in the house but I had him so bundled for the cold weather that I was afraid he'd be a furnace when he woke up.
boy-long post. going to try and get some stuff done around here before Mr. Smuggies wakes up. Have a good weekend everyone